I am Christian, but I would NEVER go on Christian Mingle to find a date.I've seen their commercials, and I have never seen anything quite
as offputting as their claim that Christian Mingle will produce "God's
Match for YOU." They have no sense of propriety.Is there
anything LOWER than misusing the Lord's name for personal profit. They
would have us believe that God is a major shareholder in the company."Find Gods' match for YOU on Christian Mingle today."NO WAY!How could that appeal to ANYONE with the least bit of
common sense or decency?
So I tried LDS singles when I was on the market, I was fairly disappointed TBH.
Mind you I live in the greater Detroit area so it was mainly an issue where
there just weren't really enough single LDS ladies in the area who were
also on a dating site. I actually got more dates with LDS ladies on e-harmony
where I eventually met my wife who's a non-denominational Christian.Had I been living in Utah or Colorado though I think it may have worked
out well. The important thing is to be up front about your faith and its
importance. I listed it on my profile as something very much a part of who I am
and I know for a fact it turned off some folk. The important thing is to find
someone who shares your values. Being open about your faith makes the process
IMHO, The fundamental assumption that is flawed here is that good relationships
are built on sameness - birds of a feather flock together, and people who are
alike are a better match than those who are different.Some people
may work that way. But for many others, opposites attract, and diversity keeps a
relationship interesting.As an atheist, my active, LDS wife and I
have been happily married for over thirty years. She does not demand that I
convert (or pretend to convert), and I don't demand that she abandon the
faith of her childhood and family.But there are Christians who make
such demands and insist on such ultimatums. This is where religious prejudice
and discrimination is most pronounced and divisive.
@The Scientist,I too am atheist, with an LDS wife. You are correct,
sometimes opposites attract.
It is not hard, nor has it ever been, to meet people. Go outside and say
"Hello", problem solved. What is hard is that so many people are holding
out for "the one" or someone who I can "connect with" on some
uber-personal/spiritual level.God isn't sitting next to you
waiting to say "there she is, Now.... GO!"If you are the one
being picky and moving on to the next person all the time... then are you sure
the problem isn't you? If 10 years of picky isn't finding someone, how
do you expect 10 years of marriage? No one is perfect. No one perfectly
compliments who you are. You aren't God's gift to mankind. Neither
will your future spouse be. We all are really. Everyone has worth to God. It
ought to be the same for us.Stop thinking about who you want and
what you want and start thinking about what you can give. Meeting people is as
easy as finding other people who are trying to meet people. If you enjoy each
other's company, then start giving & sacrificing already!
RE: The Scientist, “... if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and
he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving
husband has been *sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has
been*sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be
unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be
so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called
us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband?
Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? ( 1Cor 7:
14-16).I took his advice when I became a Christian and left the
Mormon church. Saint Paul is saying that the marriage is *clean and should not
be separated. The spouse’s Christian faith may save the unbeliever.
sharrona,I need no "saving".