Read some of the books by Karen Alpert. Great parenting advice.
It's in your heart not your head. The heart aches will go away with the
good thing that will come. have faith.
It sounds simple but I think doing the basics is the best way to parent - daily
scripture study/prayer, FHE, weekly church meetings, regular temple attendance.
My motto is do it but keep it simple and be consistent. The ancillary benefit of
doing these things is that you spend quality time together as a family, you
provide structure and discipline to your children, you show them examples of how
to love/live, and best of all, you have to be creative to get them done
consistently and you have to cooperate with your spouse/children to get them
done. It is really hard to do these simple things without diligent effort, hard
work, and especially kindness and love.
I have loved the quote "What kids need most are parents that do not need
them." Google this quote and read some articles about it and tell me what
you think. I think this could be very helpful to parents.