This makes my heart ache
This is terrible. It would be unselfish to give up for adoption a baby that you
don't want or can't take care of. My husband and I are listed on LDS
Family Service's website just waiting to be approached by a birth mom
looking to give her baby a better life. Why couldn't she give the baby up
for adoption instead of doing this heinous thing?
The Mother should be arrested . That is just terrible .
It's inhuman, actually. Most animals even take care of their young. What
has happened to us to be so insensitive. A mother's love should transcend
all other love. I don't understand this at all.
An innocent baby determined to live...I hope the infant makes it and that it
will be raised by wonderful parents. I feel sad for the birth mother--she could
have aborted the baby, but didn't...we must be kind and supportive. The
birth mother, like her child, needs help.
Just another sign that we need better sex education AND available birth control,
to save lives and reduce abortions/killings.
While the act is hard to comprehend let's not go overboard on the sharp
criticism of the mother. We have no idea of her mental state nor any of the
circumstances. Let's just be grateful the baby now has a chance.
I hope that the baby can be adopted and placed into a loving home.
This child needs a solid home, with love, and this story should never be heard
by her ears ever.
"The newborn was taken by ambulance to Pioneer Valley Hospital and then
flown by medical helicopter to Primary Children's Hospital in critical
condition. Richardson said she was soon downgraded to extremely
critical."Huh?? Downgraded from critical to extremely
critical?What a terrible situation, I can't believe the baby
survived that long without any food or medical care.
I for one am not shocked by this...not at all.
And she "thought her problems would be solved"...? Nobody in their
right mind for what ever reason starves a newborn and throws it away hoping that
it dies and that all problems are magically solved. I can't even leave
abandoned or hurting animals on their own if I stumble across them, so how can
someone do this with a human life? Even with birth control women
still become pregnant.
Now let me get this straight, if she would have just aborted the fetus a few
weeks ago everything is cool, but when it's born, she's a criminal.
What a sad and decadent people we have become.If this post is
rejected by the Deseret News "objective and impartial" evaluator, this
is the last time I'll ever visit this site. Life is too short for pop
I hope and pray that this baby survives and adopted by a loving family.
We had a similar instance some years back in the VA area. Fortunately, an early
morning jogger heard some cries from a dumpster. He found the baby, called 911,
and the baby survived. This spurned an effort to remind the public of the
"safe haven" laws. Sadly, I suspect many of the women in such dire
situations likely are unaware of such programs.
With 50 million abortions in the last ten years is it any surprise that human
life has little or no value these days? Every child born or unborn is unique and
valuable beyond measure. We all need to stand up to those who murder children in
or out of the womb and stop the insane idea that the murder of an innocent child
is somehow a "choice". Those who advocate such ideas need to be in jail
not marching in the streets claiming some kind of phony ridiculous "war on
women". It doesn't help that our current President voted three times as
a state Senator in IL to allow a doctor to kill a live baby that survived an
abortion. The world and the country have been turned upside down, life is cheap
now. Let us all hope and pray this little girl survives this nightmare and goes
on to find a life with a family who will care for her.
Hmmm, so according to many proabortionists, if the mom had simply had a partial
birth abortion an hour or so before she would have been born, everything would
have been A-OK.
My daughter volunteered along with many others and helped Catholic nuns for
4-months in Ecuador with dropped off newborn babies left on their porches at two
orphanages. Maybe 30-second ads on Utah television or radio stations, like PBAs
might be good or on social network. Babies are so helpless because God knows
that nurturing is important for the baby and mother. Our daughter has
benefitted from her service to others and I am sure her children appreciate her
special love for babies and children. She just loved seeing some of her
Ecuadoran babies get adopted and seeing the parents thrilled to get such loved
kids from the Sisters and volunteers that help in a good cause. Service to
others in the name of this life's challenges. Social networking for
24-year olds or all ages is available. There is also a Father of this child
someplace that hasn't been involved or maybe was involved in this process.
Men need to be held accountable for their actions, also.
Ouch, a couple of people decided to dogpile on Itsme2 when we know nothing about
her except that her heart aches for the child in this article and that she and
her husband would dearly like to give a home to an unwanted child. I'm praying the baby pulls through.
K and Laura Bilington,What is with the criticism of Itsme2? K, how
do you know Itsme would not provide a better life for this (or another) infant?
She and her husband likely would give them a better life. LDS Family Services
(like most other adoption agencies I am sure) doesn't accept just anyone as
prospective adoptive parents.Laura, how do you know Itsme is waiting
for a "healthy white infant"? I do not see in her post where she said
she indicated the race or health status of the baby she wants, or if she has any
preference at all. She is "waiting to be approached" because that is how
LDS Family Services adoptions work. The birth mother chooses the adoptive
parents. I am impressed by you for all the children you have adopted, and
especially being willing to adopt children who come from hard circumstances. I
am also impressed with your non judgmental way of looking at the situation from
the mother's point of view. You clearly have a good heart. But it seems
Itsme has a good heart too.
Women always have an excuse for when they do such things, such as its a mans
fault or to blame. from having babies to doing drugs, to cheating, to being
disrespectful then labeling men, yet, here we have another classic case of
sociopath and narcissism at best.It is all about her, because she can.That is the generation at hand the society we live in. I understand people are
not perfect, but when women systematically get physical custody, and do not have
to pay child support while receiving child support, it gives them the free pass
to not have to be responsible for anything. Therefor and wherefore, they simply
do not have to care about their actions when it comes to terminating or giving
up a kids life , nor do they stop having kids for the wrong reasons or denying
the father and the child their rights to another.Roe vs. Wade needs to be
re visited, and men need to stop paying for gender based equality
responsibilities such as use of contraceptives.
I actually adopted. I didn't say she would not provide a capable home, but
adoption is another way of family building, adoption of an infant is not a
rescue, it should not be approached that way. It would be lovely if the birth
father also choses the parents. I don't know maybe the same meeting ahead
of after the birth mom gets with the couple? A newborn with known parentage is
not a difficult placement. Try raising a child who spent more than a year an
institution abroad with no knowledge of medical history, birth circumstances or
prenatal care and exposure who is way behind developmentally and already
survived being left hoping someone finds them in time. She could have not had
the baby. Yet she hid the pregnancy and delivered and then had no idea how to
continue hiding. I don't know the child was truly unwanted at all stages
of pregnancy. Who knows what medical issues were happening in her head? She also
didn't receive care for her own self. It's about proving you are
capable if someone decides they are not in a good place to parent, not better.
Both sad and exhilarating at the same time. Sad that a human life was relegated
to trash and exhilarating that a life has been extended and hopefully saved.
The word needs to be spead far and wide.
Our hearts go out to an infant left in a trash can. But we are strangely silent
about the thousands of children in foster care who wait..knowing all too well
that their chances are slim that they will ever find parents who will take them
and love them unconditionally.My twin girls were abandoned at the
age of two days--left on a street in a large Asian city. The birth mother of two
of my children was only 15 when she had my oldest son. Another of my kids was
born with cardiac issues---his mother left him at the hospital and disappeared.
Three more were born to moms with drug problems--when we adopted them they had
spent three to six years in foster care. All of you who condemn the mother in
this article--can you even try to understand the desperation that she--and the
moms of my children--felt, that led them to make the choices they made? And can
you care about the children they left behind? They are hurt and broken, but they
can heal. Love and commitment can change their lives--and enrich yours more than
you can possibly imagine.
Some of the comments attacking the mother assume that we can relate to this girl
in some way. I have spent some time in that area, and am always surprised at
how very little I can relate to many who live there. I am reminded more of a
Third World country in many ways than what I consider to be the norm for much of
the rest of the Salt Lake Valley. I can only speculate as to why, but I can
imagine that whatever it is that makes one comfortable living in that
environment has a great deal to do with being in the mental state to even
consider doing something of this nature. Obviously what she has done is
unthinkable to most of us. But we really need to address lifting people as a
populace out of the morass that exists in this and a couple of other areas of
the valley where this type of thinking (or lack of thereof) can even occur.
On the news today it was stated that the mother has the thinking capability of a
3rd grader so most likely her cause/effect decisions are impaired - this needs
to be kept in mind also, if anyone is prone to judging her.
I just hope and pray this baby girl is going to be ok.
I pray for the baby's survival and the prosecution and imprisonment of the
alleged mother, to the fullest extent of the law.
Well, SLC Grandma...this woman with the capacity of an apparent, "...third
grader" seems to have cottoned on pretty well to HOW these babies get
started -- she seems to have been very successful and knowledgeable about that
-- especially for a third grader, whom BTW, do seem to understand that babies
are living beings and warrant TLC.
This is tragic, but so is the reaction of some of the commenters. Itsme2 said
they’re waiting for a mother who wants to give her baby a better life. K
judged that reasoning. If that mother feels she is not in a position to be a Mom
at this point in her life, then Itsme2 would indeed is giving that baby a better
life.It is important to note that Itsme2 said they were waiting for
a “baby”; never did she say "white" or "healthy"
baby. While it is wonderful that Laura Bilington has chosen to adopt children of
different races, nationalities, and medical conditions, and she should be
commended for that, she projected the words white/healthy into Itsme2's
comment. Itsme2 has every right to want to have the experience of raising a
child from infancy.Itsme2, I hope you will soon be able to adopt the
baby the Lord has appointed for you.
Something that has not been addressed on this forum - the behavior and thought
process of a third grader in a 24 year old body would of course suggest a
cognitive deficiency and would make the mother a prime target for abuse. Is it
possible this woman was sexually assaulted - maybe repeatedly - and didn't
know what to do with the infant once it arrived? Also, if a person with
reasonable intelligence wanted to discard a baby and not be found out, she would
likely discard it as far away from herself as possible. She left the baby in
her home dumpster - hence the speed with which the mother was found. This woman
needs help, birth control and removal from whoever the "father" is, not
so much prison time.
This is truly a tragedy. I'd take that baby and love it in a heartbeat!
So would my son and his wife who've been married five years and want
children but haven't been able to have any. Who could do such a thing? The
mother seriously needs help too.
Indeed this is tragic. In spite of what we are constantly reassured of, there
is always evidence to the contrary. Things are not getting better. Every month
we get reports of all the jobs that have been created - but few are full-time,
living wage jobs.I know this isn't about a job, but the
emotions are spilling over in to all facets of society, a sense of hopelessness
and despair. What make it worse is that there are options, but we either
don't know about them, or there is some government regulation which limits
are access to them - cheaper energy, etc.Changes need to take place
and experience has shown they won't happen from the top down, they've
got to happen from the bottom up. People need to reach out to people - like
this now felon mother, and let her know that there is hope, there are options.
The most popular comment (so far) was made by Itsme2 who expresses dismay at the
mother's actions. It is indeed a tragic and sad story to hear that a baby
was abandoned in a garbage bin instead of being put up for adoption.
Unfortunately sometimes this is what happens to unwed mothers who are scared and
afraid and don't have the option of having an abortion. This may happen in
Utah more often than you think.
It's amazing that a tragic story like this leads some individuals to push
for more abortions. This young woman just had an "abortion"; she just
let the "fetus" grow large enough to live outside of the womb. Is there
really a difference between cutting a 16 week fetus up and suctioning it out of
the womb compared to delivering an infant and not caring for it so it can die.
Really??? As a labor and delivery nurse, I can tell you with all honesty that a
16 week old "fetus" can kick and flail and try very hard to breathe on
it's own if born prematurely. Abortion is NOT the answer to this terrible
situation. More sex education is not the answer either. The real answer is
repentance...you know, turning back to God. Simple. As a society, we fail to
heed God's commandments and then we cry about the consequences.