People can "say" whatever they want or hold on to any "idea"
they want. The "fact" remains that research shows that putting off
marriage until one can develop a carrer and some financial stability is a smart
move. I would also posit that the divorce rate in this country would decline
as well if people didn't marry so young.
There's also the fact that it takes two consenting people to get married.
When the men aren't asking, there's nothing she can do without looking
From the story, "... everyone has that kind of right time to get married,
and I kind of feel like only you and your significant other know when that time
is right.”And that is the key - it shouldn't matter what
society, or religion, or other people you know say, what matters most is what is
right for you and your significant other. All this ragging on
people because you disagree with the way they are doing things only leads to
people doing things for the wrong reasons.
It will always be beneficial for women to obtain education/training before
marriage that could be used to help support or support a family if something
happens to their husbands. The women who end up the worse off in divorce or in
being widowed are those that are not prepared to support themselves or a family.
They can then become burdens on church or gov't resources to care for their
family. It is good to be supportive of marriage in a society. There are many
benefits. But, times have changed and women need the ability to provide whether
they choose to use it when they have children. Men who marry young, are not
prepared to support a wife and children if the wife stays home have a terrible
time as well. Young men need to be well prepared to take that on.
We have thousands of people who want to get married but cannot find anyone to
marry, then we have others who are married and are looking for anyway they can
to end their marriage. 90% of America wants to change their marital situation it
seems at times.
I guess the theme of the story is that it is 0K to get married young and not
wait until you are educationally and economically more mature. Most young
people seem to reject that idea.One variable that is conspicuously
absent. Birthcontrol?After marrying young when to start children
and how does this impact the argument for marrying young vs waiting.Many years ago when I graduated from BYU it was considered was considered
sinful if you were married and did not have at least one child while in Provo.
Unless you have parents who support you or one of the spouses are
working it is difficult economically. Fortunately for me I had a full time job
with insurance while I was in school. My wife stayed home with the babies. The draw back which is not mentioned in the article is that I was gone
all the time either to school or work.While my wife was interacting
with all the other young mothers in our BYU housing complex I was the absentee
father because of economic reasons