What really constitutes 'bullying'? Definitions vary. I believe that
claiming bullying is exaggerated.
Couldn't agree more with Fitz. There's a lot of "my boss demanded
that I do my work, and if I didn't he threatened to take away my
job....that's bullying" going around.And this article is
complete bunk. If there's true bullying going on, the victim telling the
perpetrator "let's sit down and have a dialogue about this" is
going to go over about as well as it would for the victim of old-fashioned
playground bullying - you're just going to get pounded some more.
The same rules that apply to bullies in school still work with bullies in the
work force. First you have to isolate them from their support system, corner
them, engage them, and finally eliminate them from their position of power,
influence and authority. And then, invite them to be successful someplace else.
HR departments are powerless and pointless. There primary job is to reduce the
legal exposure of the company against potential litigation, therefor thy will
simply remove the problem which is the employee bringing the complaint.
Bullying bosses are bad for business and people.I might not have believed
bullies existed in the workplace, until at the end of my career, I worked for a
bully. Power was her drug. Even when she didn’t have any direct reports
(but me), she wanted me to be the office snitch because I was the "hub"
of office communications. When she was there, she never came out of the office.
When she was in her office, everyone walked around on eggshells. I volunteered
to help with a project. At the end, I realized I had the responsibility, but no
authority and no advance notice on a critical piece of accounting requirement.
She hovered and the only way to do things was her way. HR was not a help even
though we had documentation. No one was willing to advocate for us. I
advocated for myself and quit. This experience still gives me nightmare.
Bullies are real.