Marry for the other person not yourself? Didn't Jesus say love your
neighbor AS yourself? He didn't say to care about others exclusively and
don't bother to care about yourself. Even Mother Terissa was wrong to put
her own happiness so low on her list of priorities.
This is about countering selfishness. If you expect to be loved as much or more
than you love, then forget having kids. It doesn't work that way. Only God
gives you more than you give. Most of the rest of the people in your life will
take more than they give. Deal with it and become a Christian.
The idea here is not just about removing selfishness in marriage, but the very
reason why God ordained marriage between a man and a woman. Marriage exists to
serve one another above the interests of the individual. That
doesn't mean the self is discarded in any way. Rather, when two people
must work hard to preserve the original love found together, they forge an
eternal type of relationship that elevates them to become more the measure of
their potential together and separately.Marriage was never intended
as it appears in popular culture today with minimal commitment and lack of
sacrifice. Rather, according to the scriptures, the "twain shall become one
flesh". Everything God has ordained is to bless the husband and wife beyond
comprehension.Marriage and having children is the way God's
spirit children come into the world. If husbands and wives serve God and each
other with commitment and conviction, then the blessings of what may come are
innumerable.One day everyone will understand better not only the
principles of marriage as God has ordained, but also the reason why it is the
most noble and basic foundation of any society.
In my opinion there is far more trouble in families, and in this world
generally, stemming from selfishness than from anything else.