Interesting, since in several parenting articles and books I've read,
linking actions to character, particularly and maybe only specifically to
success and achievement, tends to backfire. Telling a kid he's a winner or
he's smart over and over again actually undermines their self-esteem when
they encounter difficulty or failure. But perhaps I'm comparing apples and
It's all a balance. Every human has a different balance and combination
of things they need. Negative feelings are a part of life. Kids need to be
equipped for what life gives them. I wasn't raised perfect, and
remember many failings of my parents, but would I be who I am today without
I always have my kids give to the poor at Temple Square, or street corners.We go to the local food banks on a regular basis.We play "Secret
Santa", and have our kids give one of their OWN gifts.I pray they all
go to a 3rd world countries - like I did - for their LDS Missions.We
taught them to "Share, and share alike".Just as Jesus
would.I've been accused that I'm indoctrinateling them
with "Socialism".So beit.
Just like everything else -- You teach by example.