But, isn't any kind of wealth redistribution bad?
Trying to launch successfully into adult life without a father's guidance
is very difficult. Access to the money needed to raise a child is important and
unfortunately many men do not provide what they need to or could. A
dad provides other important benefits; Gary Chapman's "5 Love
Languages" calls them: quality time, verbal affirmations, physical touch,
gifts and acts of service. A child deprived of its father, his attributes and
influence is at a disadvantage in life and it shows even in kindergarten. When the dad leaves home, the mother usually does too, out of necessity,
to provide for the family. The child, in essence, loses both parents. Studies
have shown that young people, especially men, are at greater risk for violent
behaviors when deprived of good men. It is usually selfishness that creates this
situation. My heart goes out to the men who are trying to do what
they can for their children and for their children who need them desperately.
Also for the women who struggle to rear children alone. And most of all for the
children trying to navigate through a complex world alone.
I think most fathers would be satisfied with not having the deck stacked against
them in the judicial system. I have seen the dead beat bums that refuse to pay
a dime in support, will even quit a job on order to keep from paying. The
courts do little to nothing to them. But, when they find a father that will pay
for his children, they bleed him for what they can.As far as getting
custody of his children. The man had better go to court with a lot of video and
photographic evidence, notarized by at least 2 experts, and affidavits from the
woman's family. She on the other hand just needs to make accusations.
No! Stop supporting politicians that love welfare and voices that prefer
welfare over work, and especially politicians who want more welfare and will lie
to anyone to keep welfare recipients right where the politicians want them!
Wake up America!
This situation calls for a work/self improvement program where this man (and
others like him), who currently has the deck stacked against him (by his own
choices as well as circumstances beyond his control), would have a close mentor
to help guide him along the path of self improvement and an opportunity to work
where the focus is on gaining skills and opening doors for future opportunity.
It reminds me of the stories from a couple of years ago shedding light on the
full scope of Deseret Industries and other church welfare programs.If he has the desire to improve himself and provide financially and
emotionally for his family he should have access to the support that will enable
him to better himself so that he can do so. That would create one more
productive member of society and one fewer family relying on inadequate
Reading this article, it seems like focusing on the dads is just treats the
symptom of the underlying problem.If men and women abstained from
sex until marriage, and then waited until they were out of highschool before
getting married, how small would this problem be?In other words, if
people stop having kids when they are lest prepared to care for them would this
be as big of a problem that it currently is?
For far to long, probably in excess of 50 years, the politically correct Carrie
Nation types have had adverse influence upon the law, which has morphed into a
misandrist society. Men in the West are universally condescend and relegated to
2nd or even third class citizen with little or no voice in the rule and
upbringing of the man's offspring. He is looked upon economically has
paramount and legally liable, yet is right are inundated with neglect and
rejected for the alleged better logic and wisdom of the woman, and even the
media jumps on the bandwagon and presents the man as being a dolt, lacking
judgment and unable to be of sound mind without the advice and consent of the
female. Sad. Albeit, this is modernist agenda fostered and forced upon
society, it has resulted in the desires and innate wisdom of the father being
cast aside as useless and undesired. What a shame, she it is God who set the
male as the administrator and leader in the home. Anything else will and does
result in failure and willful neglect for the child.
I agree with some that have posted an opposition to ALL welfare programs like
this. The more you reward someone for not being able to take care of themselves,
the more people who will try and live like that. That being said, if you are
going to allow "only females" benefits, then a good way to at least have
equality is to allow both sides the same benefits...or remove it from the one
side. Decide on one, but you can't be biased and only allow one side the
reward if you want to call it that. Remove child support and alimony and award
50/50 custody. If you know going into a marriage that you will not be rewarded
for someone elses work, you will either know you are stuck in the relationship
or you will deal with not having any marketable skills if you leave. Stop
reqarding bad decisions with financial reward if you want to fix the problems.