I have serious doubts that the editor of DN actually read this article.
Richard Reeves presents a provocative argument: that the key to saving the
institution of marriage is a strong focus on the children. For most of human
history producing and rearing progeny was the primary focus of marriage. Are we
only now rediscovering this virtue?But as in common in journalism,
Reeves engages in cherry picking of data, promoting his own thoughts as if they
come from the mouths of others, and moralistically telling vast swaths of the
public how they should live their lives. It is difficult to see how this differs
from the tactics of the traditionalists he criticizes.Reeves is
correct that social trends such as increasing numbers of women in the workforce
and decreasing job opportunities for unskilled and low-skilled men are not going
to return to traditional patterns. But his admonition for unemployed fathers in
the poorer segments of society to become Mr. Mom is a tough sell. Studies show
that non-earning fathers in poor families have difficulty respecting themselves,
getting respect from their spouses, and staying married. This is a complex issue
that defies simple solutions.
Who is suppose to do the dishes.
Having children with the wrong person is really going to screw up some lives!
How many people have jumped into having kids and then realized that there are
serious issues between husband and wife! The first thing is to realize
that you want to share a lifetime with the same person! Do you get married just
so you can go to the Celestial kingdom? Use your head! Try and find somebody
that will be more likely feel happy about the same things you do. I think that
the biggest thing is to personally make a strong commitment not just to the
person you marry, but to yourself. Be willing to stick out the hard times. That
is when relationships become so important that you will never leave! People are
selfish. it is too easy to go onto the next person! That is horrifying to me,
and I am gay. I have been with him 15 years and each year I feel closer to him.
The thought of not having him there is not good. We committed and we don't
run when it gets hard! It takes two! Don't pick somebody that hesitates on
making a commitment!