Elizabeth Smart's words of encouragement are always a inspiration to me.
She is living proof that God can give those who ask in faith the strength to
move forward and live happy lives despite experiences that could leave a person
shattered and helpless. She is a walking, breathing miracle. May God continue
to bless and strengthen her resolve to overcome her tragedy to help others cope
after the horror of sexual abuse.
I am not always agreeable with everything that Ms. Smart says to people but
everything she said to the Heritage school is both inspired and impressive. I
hope any victims of abuse never let their abusers define them. In being the
victim they did nothing wrong but in continuing to be the victim they might.
Do wish her book had been as detailed and verbose about her recovery (time
since) her abduction as it was about the period of her captivity. Agree it was
riveting and tasteful in detail, as well as commentary. But then the book just
rushed and glossed over the years since including high school, college, mission
and psychological issues which must surely have been present both in courting,
and now, marriage to her husband.Downton Abbey is exploring some of
these issues within marriage with Bates and Anna. Just feel the recovery and
ongoing issues merit greater attention than, while interesting and relevant,
knowing more about her ordeal itself with David Mitchell and Wanda Barzee .Given
those circumstances, her recovery is amazing. What needs sharing is how that
Elizabeth Smart had to change her whole frame of reference to mentally and
emotionally survive and adapt to the situation. She obviously suffered from the
Stockholm syndrome during her ordeal, where abuse became an acceptable norm.How else can you explain the fact that she never stepped forward to
expose her abductors when she had plenty of opportunity to do so, while hiding
in plain sight in Salt Lake City?She should be proud to be so strong
now, and able to proactively deal with those memories.
Easy for Elizabeth to say "We can work hard and be happy" when she had
rich daddy to help her finish school, get a job, attract a good husband and live
happily ever after. I too was blessed to be awoken in the middle of the night by
an intruder in my off campus apartment but I did something Elizabeth never did,
I screamed and woke up my roommate in the other bed. I went on to fail in
finding a job in the field I graduated in, served a mission, but no prince
charming ever came along. Now I have to learn to be happy as an independent
mid-single without a worthy priesthood holder in my life. Oh, and I'm also
a child of the divorce culture of the 80's. Elizabeth has no idea what it
means to stay strong when everything is stacked against you.
GaryO - she explains in her book why she never ran - she believed that her
captors had helpers that would kill her family if she tried to escape. Read the
book if you are interested in her story. I'd suggest against making rash
judgments before you learn more about her. Stockholm syndrome normally comes
with feelings of sympathy, even love and affection, for the captors - she never
had this, just fear. I think she is very inspirational, but I do agree that I
wish she had put more of her recovery in her book - I'd be interested to
see how she coped and how she moved past the trauma.