Not actual birth dates. No pictures. I do not want an adult who has sexual
desires for children or who has committed the crime of sex with a child or
fantasizes about children to have my child's picture. Unfortunately more
often than not, these are people you know and you are not aware of their
thoughts and feelings. Not all people you know are as decent and moral as you
Amen, Ferretdancer. There are very bad people out there with deviant thoughts
and intentions. Why use your children, even unintentionally, as bait for them to
get excited about? All it takes nowadays are a few Google searches (you
don't even need to have a social media account) to find out enough detailed
information to find out whereabouts, workplaces, schools, sports, other
interests of your supposedly "protected children" with your "privacy
settings." If you really want to protect your children, keep any information
about them off the internet. They are minors. You are exploiting them.
I think that's an excellent line of thinking. But I'm no longer
20-something. My head does not wrap around technology as fast as it comes out.
Neither does my budget. I use social media in a limited way (thought not as
limited as my mother), and my kids use media I haven't had time to figure
out. But we talk about things, I look over their shoulders occasionally, and we
hope for the best. Paying for mobile phones for every member of the family is
never going to come out of my budget, since they are largely time-wasters for
teens (and we have a policy of planning ahead to avoid the need for checking in
all the time). We also know everyone has lots of friends who can lend a phone
in the event of an emergency. (Incidentally, this is a great way to pick up
friends' phone numbers.) I think this is great, for those who can do it.
I love that there is no single right way to parent! We're all just doing
the best we can, and no one can ask for more that our best.