I have a close friend getting married in two weekends. He saw this article too
and is anxious and concerned that he'll be this "Mister Right" for
his intended. Marriage is a real leap of faith he says. Now he has 13 more
things to worry about
I agree with most of the points, but not necessarily number 8. One of the things
I will tell my kids is that for the most part, when you get married you leave
your buddies on the other side of the alter. I believe strongly in the old
saying that best friends make the best marriages. If you would rather ditch your
fiancé and go hang out with the buddies (I have seen guys who just
couldn't leave their old high school buddies alone) you either aren't
ready for marriage, or haven't found the right one. I would rather hang out
with my wife than anyone else; even after 20 years.
jzer: point 8 talks about balance, but you're talking about an extreme. Go
reread it. It's kinda what you're saying already. It isn't
healthy to only be a friend to your spouse. I've a brother who left
everything, including his family and faith all to keep his spouse happy.
He's getting divorced after approx. 20 years of marriage. I
think this article is one of the finest lists of what to look for in the perfect
spouse. I like that it isn't all about the other person, but reflective of
how that relationship properly should affect you. I'm going to
bookmark it for my girls, who are starting the dating scene.
I did like the article you wrote about Mr. Right, and yeah women should be happy
to be around that guy. About little drama or not drama at all, women are
always accused to be dramatic, but with all my experience I can tell that men
are much dramatic than women, because when they feel angry or upset, they said
or do stupid things to take revenge. I think the most important thing is
to understand each other, to forgive and to apologize our selves when it is
needed.We must looking up and never give up, because there is a Mr. Right
for each girl right there.