What do you mean by "date"?Go Steady?"Hang
out"?Hold hands at the Mall?The boy pays for a burger and a
shake for the girl?Go to a formal dance?Go on a picnic together or
with a group?Nothing means what it used to mean, and until you clear
up all the meanings, you aren't going to make much progress with your teen.
Too young brings trouble.Double and/or group dating is wise.Avoid compromising situations like the plague. Like starting a truck
with a big engine, "easy does it."Everything still has time
to work out; I know, I married later and life is just grand. Many who married
young (but not all) suffered failed marriages and broken homes.
I think 16 or 17 is still young to seriously date. They can't even legally
get married until 18... why so serious so young? Go serious when you're
actually looking to get married. Before then, go on dates with multiple people.
They need to learn to control their emotions and their actions and their self
indulgence before they are ready to take on the world and responsible adults.
Each enters adulthood in different times and ways but self control is the most
important training they need.Being a responsible adult is the first
requirement, self control mandatory, time limits and hours of dating, learn the
meaning of accountability. Being ready for sex is not an entailment of date or
romance. Parents have had a lot of road blocks put in the way for them to be
very effective is helping teenagers to become adults. Teenagers can make an
accusation and end a family out of their hormonal rages. The law gives too many
young children the right to challenge and disobey parents and guardians and do
whatever their hormones leads them to do. Parental rights to physical restraint
should not be challenged by laws and teens and judges.
Our ancestors got married at 14 and 15, and they didn't have these
problems. Why do we have these problems now? It has nothing to do with what is
age appropriate and everything to do with our society and the detachment from
In our home it is 16 for group dating. It is 18 for single dating.
Relationships should be taken seriously and it is hard for a 16 year old to
navigate those waters. Maturity plays a huge part in dating, and even though it
is only 2 years those 2 years are huge. They grow so much in maturity by the
time they approach the end of the teenage years and it is invaluable when
entering the world of dating/marriage.
Asking your kids to wait until they're 18 to date, just because their
parents say so, sounds like setting up your kids to sneak out and lie to you.
Not a good parenting technique, in my opinion.
I love my daughter and have raised her to respect herself and her future
husband. I have no problem loosening those reins and letting her venture out on
group dates as a means to test the waters. I also know that single dating will
blossom from that and again will have no problem letting go like some other
parents seem to just as soon as she turns 30.
I believe 15 for group dates and 17 for single dates. You are not going to stop
kids from liking each other so you might as well be realistic and set up proper
guidelines for dating. One thing I do tell my kids is that they
should not even think about marriage till they are at least 25 and preferably
30. That way their careers are started and they can experience the world.
Obama and his agenda have failed at every corner and if given enough rope,,the
Libs will hang themselves, just like in Benghazi, Fast and Furious, the
Obamacare rollout, and a whole host of other issues......the difference between
today's American and those forty years ago is welfare.....the Libs who
aspire to be on welfare and the tea party who try to enforce reasonable laws to
govern the abuse Libs vote for themselves"........takers vrs makers"