Why do stay-at-home-moms (or working mothers, for that matter??) always feel
they have to defend themselves? It's so sad.Unfortunately, I never
had the opportunity to stay at home. Because of the nature of my husband's
employment, I have had to have a job all of our married life. I would NEVER
criticize a mother for making the choice to stay at home. I was actually quite
envious.It is a rare opportunity these days.
How do you measure productivity? If you are producing widgets on an assembly
line, you just count widgets. Mothers are not in the business of making widgets.
They are in the business of raising children.Like a stone cast into
a pool, the ripples created by a child expand for ever, repeated by their
children; for good or bad.Good people bless society rather than
burden it. Good people come from good mothers.
Why do we as women feel that we must either justify our decision to stay at home
or not? Why do we criticize or are critical of other's choices? As a
mother I have lived in both worlds. I was a stay at home mom for fifteen years,
went back to school with 6 kids in tow, and now am a full time school teacher.
These choices are not easy for anyone. As a teacher, I have come to the
conclusion that the best thing I can do is not what I do everyday in the
classroom, but it is what I do at home with my own children.Being a parent
and raising productive, well adjusted children is the best thing a mother can do
for society. Whether or not she gets to do it as a full time profession or as a
double full time job is up to the individual, and the individual family. Either
way, mom's are busy!
There is no job more important to society or to the family than for a mother to
stay at home to raise, nurture, and educate her children. However,
misguided feminism advocates denigrated this job so that unless a woman is
employed in an outside the home job they are made to feel inferior.Well, time to ignore feminism's flawed perceptions and to once again
praise the virtues and benefits of mothers raising their children. Not just on
Mothers' Day, but every day.
The answer is simple -- it depends on the woman. Some women are productive both
as a mother and a professional, some do one role but not the other, and others
slack in both roles. Some women are happy staying home, others are not (and
stay home grudgingly). Some women enjoy pursuing a career, others do not (and
do so grudgingly). Women are not identical, and each woman should pursue the
role most suited to her inclination. I was one of the lucky ones. I was both a
mother and a career professional (a lawyer), and succeeded in both roles.Women should be supported, regardless the choices they make.
Why does the Deseret News feel compelled to fuel this fire again and again.
Almost all the women I know respect the choices others have made - whether to
work outside the home or not.Stop trying to make this a bigger issue
than it is.Women are people. People make choices. Others can like
those choices or not. Move on.
I definitely agree that women who stay home do not need to apologize for, or
justify their wonderful role. It is more demanding, more useful, loving and
meaningful by far that a career or any other false god.OTOH as a
member of the LDS Church I do not accept that it is JUST a decision, an
indifferent thing or matter of personal taste. It is an expectation that each
family do what is necessary, if there is an able-bodied man, a husband, who can
find or make work for his family, that moms have the right as well as the duty
to stay at home.Sacrifice brings forth the blessings of heaven. No
success can compensate for failure in the home. We NEED full time mothers.
Staying home with children, in and of itself, is only part of the equation. I
know several stay-at-home parents who (by their own admission) regularly park
their children in front of the TV for hours at a time. While their children are
watching garbage on TV, these parents spend their time engaged in productive
activities such as playing games on the computer, checking facebook and reading
romance novels. In such cases, families would be better off hiring a good nanny
and having both parent work outside the home.