There is NO SHAME in seeking the best for children. These relatives and the
children have earned our love and respect.The only shame here is that Utah
is so ravaged by drugs and addictions and living in denial, that it is a huge
part of this tragedy. I am not from Utah. Actually we now live in Saudi
Arabia, but I am keenly aware of at least 10 of these children, because their
mothersOD'd. I wonder, and wonder, when will the media and the people
wake up to really battle this monster? Living in ignorance and shame... The
shame is only there because of addicts, parents, families and (especially)
society does not want to face the reality.The first step of healing is
always in recognizing the present reality - something Utah has NOT done.
But these are not the children's "natural", biological parents!
That can't possibly be part of god's "plan of happiness"!Or do we have to admit that good parents and families come in many
configurations, including same sex couples?
To: The Scientist...I think the Lord is always pleased when good people will
step in to save the life of a child no matter the situation. The Lord hopes that
the original parents will be responsible and raise their children with love and
guidance, but unfortunately with the laxidazical attitude many parents have
toward their children He is happy someone will step up and protect them.
I've never understood the neglect, the abuse. Children deserve love,
protection and happiness like anyone else. It's a sad world we live in and
it doesn't seem to be getting any better.
Substance abuse is tearing more and more families apart....and yet there are
people out there who think we should legalize drugs.Tell me, do you
think that the negative effects of drug use would just magically go away if
drugs were legal? So why should we make drugs easier to get?
I don't live in Utah either, but I do know the ravages of drug abuse and
how working an AL-Anon program helps with detachment, boundaries with adult
children and working with the legal system to allow the addicts to have
reasonable consequences for their behavior. Children need to be protected and
the addicts need to be reported so that the children will have a safe situation.
My hat is off to these wonderful relatives who are willing to put the children
I have long believed that we tackled the drug problem from the wrong side.
Where there is a supply and demand, the demand must be stopped or decreased past
monetary gain for there to be success. We need to find out what makes people
take drugs. We need to provide alternatives for that.
Goes to show that drug abuse is a very big problem in Utah...bigger than anyone
can imagine. It is prevalent in all religious and socio-economic groups. All
families are affected by drug abuse in one way or another and to think that
being religious or richer makes you immune is being arrogant.
Society is deteriorating right before our very eyes. Drugs are a "rite of
passage" for poor elements in our society. Drug dealers offer an element of
danger and risk to young women in stable families. The women do not realize the
ultimate goal foisted by these modern day "Errol Flynn's" with
their "golden tongues". What is left are shattered lives and children
who are ticking "emotional time bombs". The entire scenario is very
problematic for the future of law enforcement and the stabilization of the
family. Certainly, the answer is not a socialist one where the drug dealer is
seen as an innocent victim of a sexist and racist society. That is the problem
in the first place. When stable schools reach out to help the children of those
less fortunate, they have to "keep the faith" and not give in to the
belief that single parents will reform schools and therefore society in their
own image. In many cases, single parents do a great job. However, the majority
of single parents have lost control of their children and loosened them as
"demons" on the innocent lambs of society.
I have a brother and sister-in-law in Pleasant Grove, both in their early 60s,
who are having to raise very active, 6-year-old twin grandsons due to their
mother's ongoing substance-abuse issues. I don't know how they do it,
except that you play the hand that's dealt to you. I can't speak to
the prevalence of drug abuse in Utah, but I think it's safe to say that
many of these children would have been put up for adoption, or aborted in the
first place, in other states.
This is not just a Utah problem. The Stats are the same if not higher for the
Nation as a whole. Keep trying Mr Scientist to make this a "Utah" or
Mormon problem. I have read your posts before and you are a very one sided
person who wants everyone to look thru your glasses which have tunnel-vision.
Its pleasing to hear the kindness that is stated in these comments. The tragedy
is how many are sucked into the drug, pornographic, sexual and drinking
addiction we have, I am glad we have parents that are their for those children.
The comment about same sex parents doesn't fit into these equations, the
question is not whether they may be kind or not the question is answered in the
Proclaimation of the Family, the worlds idea of a family is skewed and sad to
say I agree that these things cross all social and economical areas. My heart
goes out to parents who have to end up taking in their grandchildren because of
choice their children make. I would say to parents don't beat yourselves up
if you have tried to teach your children correct principles, each of us has to
make decision and the usually affect others, mostly our families. Heavenly
Father will be with you grandparents as you show love and kindness to these
special spirits. God bless each of you and know these acts of love and kindness
are not going un noticed.
It is amazing how many still contend that if people want to use drugs they
should be able to, that it only effects them.
I don’t know if my other one went through – but there is some help
for those grandparents or other family members raising these kids, if the
parent’s addictions or actions put them in prison. Please help out
these grandparents even more so some of these children that lost a parent to
drugs and incarceration - by supporting the ‘Willy the Plumber