This new survey could be at odds with the one from the National Dating Abuse
Helpline because the later survey relied on the proportion of female calls
received by the helpline! That is, it wasn't random nor representative.
In short, it might be those more likely to phone-in to a teenage abuse helpline
are young women; young male victims, by contrast, may internalize the abuse and
not phone it in. It's simply not very "cool" or "manly"
for a young man to proactively phone a helpline and report that his
girlfriend's beating him up. However, a more anonymous, representative
sample like this one here from the APA can reveal the more plausible truth.
I am sure the feminists are proud!
"...when girl are the perpetrators, they typically lash out with
name-calling and hitting. Boys, on the other hand, are much more likely to
commit severe sexual and physical assaults."Name calling and
hitting is not equivalent to severe sexual and physical assaults. This article
headline is deliberately misleading.
I think the melodramatic photo at the start of this article pretty much sums up
the entirety of the content... -_-
Guys & Gals...If YOU have experienced this situation either on the giving OR
receiving end, it is EXTREMELY important to look within yourselves. This type of
situation is indicative of problems within ourselves. The pattern will most
likely(if not ABSOLUTELY)continue until you have sought for help from the many
sources available,(including and especially your Heavenly Father). We are
"drawn to" and "attract" those who will either treat us this way
or we can treat this way. It's an equally participating "dysfunctional
dance". I experienced two disastrous relationships and 57 years before I
understood and made changes. With all the help available in today's world
if one continues in this pattern then it is out of choice....
Alfred Adler, the famed psychologist, believed that the defining driving concept
in the human is power. Men and women resolve this in different ways. Obviously,
women are more emotional and men are more physical. The manipulative nature of
women can be used as support or as a way to control their mate. Women are much
more prone to be "passive-aggressive" and cause the physical lashing out
of the male.
I interpret this data as serious dating happens before teens are mature enough.
@JBQI emphatically disagree with the idea that ANYONE else
"causes" our behavior! That vein of thinking enables others to hurt
someone else and NOT take credit for ones own actions. Our Heavenly Father
insured by choosing the Savior that we(and everyone on this earth fought for
it)all have the freedom to make our OWN choices, regardless of the situation.
I'm not saying passive/aggressive behavior is acceptable or healthy, but I
am saying blaming someone ELSE for our choices is unhealthy...
Just more proof of the softness of the american male these days
@JBQ"Women are much more prone to be "passive-aggressive" and
cause the physical lashing out of the male."Cause? When you read
about a rape story is your first thought "what was she wearing?"
It is ridiculous to compare name-calling to physical abuse and imply the two are
equal. No one gets sent to the hospital when they are the recipient of
name-calling.The title of this article is misleading and creates
It is ridiculous to compare name-calling to physical abuse and promote the idea
the two are equal. No one goes to the hospital as a victim of name-calling.This article is deliberately misleading and will be passed on as false
evidence that the victimization of men and women is equal when it is not.
I find it incredibly curious and fascinating at the same time that as society
plods along we are starting to learn that women aren't always perfectly
precious. After years of the feminist movement and the destruction of the male
influence in society in which women were exalted simply for being women and men
were debased simply for being debased, it is good to see that we are starting to
reverse that trend. It's a simple fact, really, women aren't perfect.
Welcome to the boat of imperfection ladies. Now let's work together to
make things right again and treat each other as equals and with respect.
What would it take for the UDVC to not get angry and violent at the truth???
What would it take for the UDVC and media to finally get it, to propose
solutions to end as much domestic and partner violence as possible??? Truth
would do it, but truth is the only thing more offensive than lies which makes
many violent, and call names when truth offends them... Watch and see.
The biggest study on dating violence ever done was a few years ago and the local
media ran the story that women were abused, again... Why? Because the UDVC, as
usual, lied and changed the real results of that biggest partner dating violence
study ever. They refuse to tell us the results, that women abuse/perpetrate
more and that roughly an equal number of mutual violence exists. This applies
to domestic violence too, roughly equal mutual perps and more female sole perps,
initiators. Yet the UDVC and media refuse to report reality, and cause soooo
many problems with their agenda. They can stop abuse if they will tell the
truth? Does anyone care? What would it take for the media to become honest and
jettison the lies of the UDVC, their only source of partner violent
The article is unclear in many details; this may be skewing the results to
equalize male and female abuse or, otoh, to suggest that the female abuse is
mainly verbal. Females sometimes sexually abuse, especially nowadays, quite
capable of making an unwanted "pass" at a male.Back in the
Seventies, when everyone was talking about sex abuse, "research" was
said to prove that most women were sexually abused. Very few actually read the
"research" in detail which defined "abuse" very loosely
including verbal nuances, etc, subjective reactions, and lumped it all together
with all stated unwanted touching of any degree as "rape". The courts
provided novel legal definitions of "rape" to include consensual
intimacies between a young couple in which one was from one day to a year or two
older, the older being legally adult. So yes, there are agendas and lies in
"statistics".Other things that skew results are reporting
frequency, fraudulent, self-interested, or malicous slanders, and an ugly
stereotype of a male as someone who always wants intimacy with any woman without
reference to personal taste or morality. Men who are discerning or moral are
mocked and disbelieved.
There are "passive aggressive relationships" that are just as (or more)
damaging as physical violence...and it doesn't leave the kind of
scar/mark/proof that you can take a 'photo' of, or show a second
party... Abuse of any kind, by any gender is wrong, but not all abuse gets
'equal' attention or the scorn of society. I have heard
some women say in the face of significant psychological and emotional
abuse..."It would be easier if he just 'Hit ME!' Non-physical
abuse is much harder to substantiate, validate, and many times 'blurs'
the lines of 'what is abuse'?Thank you for drawing
attention to both sides of the abuse spectrum.
"It is ridiculous to compare name-calling to physical abuse and imply the
two are equal. No one gets sent to the hospital when they are the recipient of
name-calling."So name-calling is good to go then?Somehow I get the impression that in your eyes name-calling is abusive only
when a man does it; when a woman does it, she's just "blowing off
steam" and the guy needs to "man up" and not be so sensitive.
"Carlos Cuevas, another presenter at the APA conference, pointed out that
when girl are the perpetrators, they typically lash out with name-calling and
hitting. Boys, on the other hand, are much more likely to commit severe sexual
and physical assaults."I'd like to see Cuevas EVIDENCE,
rather than an assumption.During the OJ Simpson trials, and official
from the National Organization for Women wrote to USA to take the opportunity to
shine a light on ALL abuse, not just abuse by males, saying, "More abuse is
initiated by women and it is MORE violent. How is it more violent? Because
women use tools: irons, knifes, hammers, pans, etc. to make up for their
inferior size and strength.Facts lead to solutions. Assumptions and
agendas delay them.No excuse for abuse, of any kind, by anyone.
Gosh, for some strange reason I still tend to think that guys are more
My son has been living with an abusive wife for 15 yrs. Guess how much help
there is out there for him ? The system does not work for a man like it does for
a woman. We just hope he makes it out this time.
From my, albeit limited, experience, women are just as abusive as men. They
just don't hit as hard and men don't complain as much.
Bureau of Justice Statistics states:Females are more likely than
males to experience nonfatal intimate partner violence.On average
between 2001 and 2005, nonfatal intimate partner victimizations represented
— 22% of nonfatal violent victimizations against females
age 12 or older 4% of nonfatal violent victimizations against
males age 12 or older.Victim/offender relationship in nonfatal
violent victimizations, by victim and gender, 2001-2005 Average
annual rate per 1,000 persons age 12 or older Female MaleVictim/offender relationship Rate Percent Rate Percent 100 %
100 %Intimate 4.2 21.5 0.9 3.6 Other relative 1.7 8.9 1.2 4.6
Friend/acquaintance 7.0 36.2 8.6 34.3 Stranger 6.5 33.4 14.4
57.4 For homicides, intimate partners committed —
30% of homicides of females. 5% of homicides of males.