yes we can change. and inspiring story, thank you.
Thank you so much for your candid words! This topic has been coming up a lot
with my group of friends and I cannot wait to share with them your thoughts. As
a young mother who has recently become determined to cut down on the yelling,
your story gives me hope. :)
I have nine kids, and I was a screamer myself. I read a book called The Soft
Reply. When I started it, was like, oh yah, like this will help, but was
convinced I could softly reply after I read it. You should have seen the amazed
looks on my kids faces when I softly told my daughter to please let go of her
younger brother's neck, and let him back on the ground--Inside I was like,
ARE YOU FREAKIN' KIDDING ME? she dropped her brother and he fell to the
floor. She started to tell me what he had done and I told her I loved her, I
loved her brother please go to your rooms away from each other for a bit, and I
love you. I kept it up--drove them totally nuts, didn't lose my temper, or
my spirit, and they wondered where banshee mother was banished to. We all have
our 'corn moments' some are just less messy than others.
I changed too! My youngest child has heard me yell once or twice, compared to
the almost daily for the older children. Thanks for giving encouragement to
frazzled parents everywhere.
Thank you, so very much for your encouragement!!! My husband is at scout camp
this week...Day one went great....today, not so awesomely.... I'm sitting
here crying. My 3 boys and baby girl are all sound asleep, and I feel such
guilt and remorse for the yelling, raised voice, and shouting matches that I
childishly kept going. Um, WHO is the adult in the house?! LOL! Tomorrow will
be better though! I can change, and thank you for the gentle reminder.
"Corn Moments". That's a phrase I'll never forget now!
Thank you for this outstanding article.
This is exactly the message I needed today.
Being a mother is a really tough job. I don't know of one mother who
doesn't want to be the best for her children. One of the things I learned
as a mom was that I needed to apologize to my children and ask forgiveness. I
couldn't expect them to say they were sorry if I didn't. It softened
all of our hearts when I said I was sorry. My children were very forgiving and
very loving towards me afterwards. They are grown with children of their own and
now they understand the depth of love I have for them as they are parents
Thank you for the encouragement.I am a much calmer grandmother than I was
a mother. I will apply this lesson today to my 91 year old mother who I
care for.Dementia combine with her mental illness is ugly and exhausting.
I will try to say in my heart each time I really
want to grit my teeth - "I love you mother - I always have - even if
you don't feel that you even like me."I have been lifted and
carried by the prayers of others - this will be very helpful too.
Sometimes Moms even need a time out. When I went in for my recommend interview,
the thing I said that I needed to change was stop yelling. I just yelled last
week for the first time in years. Talk about humble pie! Thanks for your
What a great and honest story. I also believe in change. I was much like you and
changed due to a different reason. My daughter Joy was born at 23 weeks last
year. Due to modern medicine and prayers she is doing great today. After she
came home from 121 days in the NICU, I wrote a memoir called From Hope To Joy;
about my life-threatening pregnancy and my daughters 4 months in the NICU (with
my 3 young sons at home), which will be published in the beginning of August.
Until her birth, I would sweat the small stuff too often. Now, we all do our
best to think about what is really important (health, family and love). My goal
of writing our memoir is to give a realistic look at what lies ahead to families
with preemies in the NICU while showing them that hope can turn into Joy and
that miracles can happen.Please see: fromhopetojoy
Michelle - I can't begin to tell you how this article helped me today. Not
because I was a yeller, but because of other things I wish I could go back and
do differently in raising my kids. It's not too late to change! With two
new grand babies, and a sophomore in high school still to raise, you have given
me a new perspective. I do believe it helps to be open and honest with our
struggles. Please....more help, ideas, and stories for moms. Thank you!P.S. Jennifer - thanks for sharing.
I'm not a mother and am probably lucky I'm not. I had a mother once
that I wish I had back, but will have to wait until I get to the other side. (
Maybe then I'll pay attention when she gives me her strawberry jam recipe.)
I am married to a Mother. Mother of the year? I think so. But since My kids vote
is the only that counts, then yes she is the mother of the year and has been for
30 years. Having said that, it was refreshing to have a ordinary person who
puts extraordinary effort in to doing the most important job in any community.
She Not only made the changes but equally important she recognized there was a
need for change. THAT is Mother of the Year... Thank You
Mother's Day is coming up and we are grateful this article reminds us to
not loose our tempers!!