Very sorry to read of such a parental gap in these young girls lives. Sad
because it is almost impossible for others to make up the difference in their
lives, the great big whole where a good parent would stand. Nice
that at least for this once someone was able to step in and was able to make a
@ Kathy: What are you talking about? What parental gap? How does not having
the money to spend $100+ on a doll equal a gap in parenting?
What I'm very sorry to read is this sad example of how racism is alive and
well in black families today, and stupidity is alive and well in public school
teachers. I refer to the 5th grader who exclaimed, "I know about this
place. Only white girls can go there." Where would a child get an idea like
this if not from within her family or her community? Also, Mr.
Robinson made a very sorry mistake by failing to teach the truth, and that is
that nobody GIVES you money, you EARN money! Or has this basic economic
principle been abandoned? Why not allow the girls the experience of working to
earn those dollars received through generous donations? And then
to provide manis and pedis for 10-year-olds; make-up artists, photographers,
videographers and a LIMOUSINE? Have they lost their minds?? That’s the
best use they could think of for those donations?
Cont’dThen we learn that the girls had “two etiquette
workshops under their belts”, evidently to provide what Robinson thought
was most needed; “An opportunity to turn around the thinking of girls when
they think of image”. Yes, image; so much more important than life skills
or reality. In reality what this teacher actually taught was:
1) You will be provided with what you want, with no effort on your part; 2) We
will go way overboard, just because we can; and 3) overpriced goods matter this
much. Wow! Talk about teaching enslavement to false principles.
I guess what this teacher did was nice and well intentioned. Wouldn't it
have been better to teach the girls that $100 dolls are not connected with their
identity? That they can distinguish themselves in ways that have nothing to do
with money or dolls, and that if they don't have the resources to
participate in our ridiculous material world, they can spend their time and
energy on other more worthwhile things, that would boost their self-esteem in
real ways that would be lasting?As my daughter's American Girl
doll sits in a box (she is now grown) and she is busy in a career working hard
to make a difference in kids' lives, I am grateful she was not persuaded
that a doll or any other material item held any real significance, because they
do not. She rarely touched her doll and it was a waste of money. I believed it
was good parenting at one time to provide that for her. I see now it was
misguided thinking.Teach those girls to be as smart as they can be,
and as good as they can be. Then, they will fit in anywhere.
I grew up with older sisters in my family who loved dolls and married a truly
lover of of dolls. I know that there is [I don't know] a spiritual
connection. Sounds odd, but I think there is something real between the doll and
the person. It's not about ego.
@ Lasvegaspam: The money was used for the purpose for which it was raised.And it is no more wrong for these girls to experience this than it is
for any other girl to experience it. As for raising the money
themselves, sure - let's get a bunch of 10 year old girls who live in high
poverty neighborhoods selling lemonade or doing something else to raise a
hundred or so dollars each - and while we are at it, let's kill Santa Claus
off also lest he teach children their is kindness in the world.
OR let’s elevate Beyonce to hero status, and then enslave our kids into
mimicking her instead of opening their little teachable minds to the real heros
of the world. Kalindra, the lack of wisdom in this
“teacher’s” choice of how to spend OPM (Other People’s
Money) exactly reflects the same problem in our government today. Wise teachers (including parents and grandparents) have always created ways to
allow kids the experience of earning. How difficult is it to take jobs that
must be done (within the classroom, within the school) and offer money for them?
What parent hasn’t offered cash for grade improvement? Or for number of
stories read, or for number of book reviews, or for help tutoring other
students, etc. etc.) Field trips used to be taken in (gasp)
school busses; and principals had to approve them. That meant (gasp) they
needed to be “educational”.This story ought to be filed
under “Outrageous Errors Made by Educator-Wannabees” or, if
you’re a liberal, “Things That Make Ya Feel Good”.
While understanding the teacher’s intent, to show the girls that they can
be and do anything, I think his method was misguided. He left off the
all-important, if you’re willing to work for it. It appears the teacher
came up with a plan to provide this highly materialistic experience for these
little girls. And then gave it to them. The girls weren’t involved with
the website. They did no research, read no books, wrote no essays or letters,
were involved in none of the planning. His ‘teaching’ was an
excellent replica of much of modern parenting, but that is not the model, in
teaching or parenting, that produces the next great generation. While I’m
glad the little girls had fun (what woman doesn’t enjoy a day at the spa
that includes shopping and lunch), the opportunity to teach was badly missed.And on another note, I can afford American dolls but would never spend
the money. Why? Really cool stuff that costs too much money, and for what? The
books I buy. Great formulaic reading series to get young girls interested in
reading and history.
@KalindraHad absolutely nothing to do with the dolls but the girls
image of themselves. "And they believed they belonged there or
anywhere else"Of course they belong anywhere and can do
anything---why weren't they taught that simple truth at home?
I am shocked by how judgmental all of the comments are. How about letting these
girls have a fun day like a lot of other girls get to? Some of you bought your
girls the same dolls because you could afford to. There is nothing wrong with
these girls experiencing some pampering. Many people donate to charities that
support foster children and children in need so that they can have special
experiences that they might not otherwise have. These girls know how hard real
life is. They know what it means to not have any money, to go hungry, cold, and
wear worn out clothing. So, they get a fun day in the city and a special
experience? Be happy for them. They are well aware of the difference between
the haves and the have nots. Lighten up a bit and let them enjoy life for a
day. They are learning plenty of life lessons.
lllslc: $14,000 = 28 new laptops Or 56 new programs of Rosetta
Stone. Hmmmmmmm. I wonder which choice will take these girls