I think the picture with this article says it all..this little girl is not happy
and it seems to me that these poor little children who have to endure this
don't have a say. It's all for the parent. Let little children be just
that..little children. Enjoy them while they are young, they grow up fast enough
and also let them enjoy their childhood instead of throwing makeup on them and
Scary stuff. I find beauty pageants for adolescent girls disturbing. To be
honest I have never been a fan of beauty pageants for any age group.
Much of this general information isn't entirely new, though the studies
are, but it's certainly a great reminder about what's going on in our
society. Our culture, especially the mainstream media, is making it very
difficult to be a fully realized female, and it's sad that it's
reaching down to earlier and earlier ages. I HIGHLY recommend everyone take some
time to ponder and investigate more about media literacy, as is mentioned at the
very end of the article (wish this was higher up in the story so more readers
would see this). We as parents need to restrict what our children view, but we
also absolutely MUST teach our children elements of media literacy. Yes, and
they and we should be rightly angry about these deceptions that we see and hear
regularly every single day.
This article seems to miss the point. No, we shouldn't be sexualizing young
girls with tight, revealing clothing and "glamour shoot" makeup and
hair. But the real problem lies in the fact that adult women are also being
dragged into that realm. It has become the norm for adult women to wear clothing
that is tight and revealing. Baring cleavage and wearing short skirts is a
media-driven expectation that objectifies women and puts them on display for
men. Many women defend those styles, not realizing they've been influenced
into that thinking by Hollywood and the media. They try to justify it by
claiming the right to dress as they please, but in the end, they are still on
display with the invitation for men to drink it all in.So, my point
is, that girls grow up into women, and if society supports the notion of
sexualized women, how can they expect anything different from young girls when
all they have as examples are sexualized adult women?
If you know someone who is exposing their children to this, you might want to
purchase for them the book "So Sexy So Soon" by Diane Levin, PhD., to
help open their eyes.
aceroinox, very good points. Some aspects of the "women's
liberation" movement have been good, and some misguided -- but if they were
serious this issue would be their keynote, not a side note. The reduction of
women to their physical appearance not only persists but it's getting
worse, and there is possibly no greater threat to the valuable contribution that
women can and should make to society.
The show Toddlers and Tiaras isn't about promoting sexualization, it's
about exposing it. Honey Boo Boo isn't a star because she's succeeded
at being sexy, she's a trainwreck that no one can take their eyes from--a
symptom of the dysfunction in society. And just because it has high ratings
doesn't mean everyone's okay with it--it means that a lot of people
are concerned about it. I'll watch T&T with my young girls
and we'll laugh and groan and make comments one to another about how we
might better approach beauty and our own self-image. It's actually quite a
decent springboard for discussion, because the kids I raise in my house can see
there's something horribly awry as soon as the glitz begins. Fwiw, there's a great spoof on YouTube by Tom Hanks about these pageants
that pokes fun of just how narcissistic and vain these pagaents are. Do a search
for Tom Hanks and Toddlers and Tiaras.
Raybies, you emphasize a key point. Parents having open, positive discussions
about what the kids see in society and in the media (whether on this topic or
many others) Is crucial to development of healthy perspectives and attitudes.
The consistent discussions parents have and the example they set will generally
trump the outside influences.
Raybies... I hope what you say is true. But that underling principle of the
show, beauty trumps all, all concerns me. After all we may talk to our children
but they are still influenced by what they see. I wouldn't let my children
watch a movie with sexually explicit scenes just so we can talk about sex.
Definitely healthier ways to go about that.
I think women should learn to take care of their appearance. There is nothing
wrong with that ... not to be sexy .. but to be elegan.But they
certainly should learn to get a good job, manage their lives the best way they
can and should be taught good moral principles .But so should men
.... it seems that we never emphasize enough good behaviour from men in the way
they treat women and in the sharing of responsability and virtue and family life
.... that's is why it does not work because it is only women who are
requested to behave when many men are left to do what they please;...As long as double standards exist ... the world problems will prevail
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world.
Re: What is the truth?Sexually explicit forms of entertainment are
everywhere these days. There are a couple approaches to this sort of thing. 1. Insulate your children from it by controlling all exposure or any
hint of innappropriateness. This approach requires the parent to monitor a
child's time and isolate the child from other children whose parents have
less stringent habits. In this method, the parent does all the work. It can be
exhausting, is prone to fail due to the pervasive media available. 2. Look for opportunities to educate your children about the toxic nature of
the society in which they live. Honey Boo Boo is a very tame show, but it
touches upon a toxic aspect of our society. It is a decent vehicle for having
deep discussions about beauty, selfimage, and even sexualization, without
exposing the child to a lot of graphic or disturbing content that a child
can't process. What's interesting about this approach is that your
children will start to criticize the trends in popular media if they are given
the tools to do so. Ideally the world would clean up its act and
we'd do a bit of both...
My three little girls will change the channel if they see T&T on, same thing
with Dance Moms. My girls tell me that the shows are stupid and the girls that
are on there don't look real. My 4 year old even said that the girls on
T&T look like plastic and are ugly.
To Raybies..Sorry dear, still think I'll have my kids watch
Dora the Explorer, Sesame Street and other shows. No I won't insulate my
children... just be sensible about what they watch. and express my disgust at
those "tame" shows that exploit children.
Dora the Explorer!? Really? Well if you're still changing diapers and
teaching them to count to five, then yeah, you can pretty much control most of
their choices for them. In a way at that age they're really not individuals
yet. My kids are teens and one preteen. There are trends, habits,
jokes, songs, videoclips, salty language, playground games, toys, pressures to
go steady, movies, parties, sleepovers, relatives, friends, school projects, and
all sorts of weird things their peers share one with another. As
your children mature, you'll see that the ability to shelter your kids from
most trends in media is mostly an illusion, unless you intend to cut them off
from all human contact. I encourage you wholeheartedly to set a high standard in
your home; but, at a certain point, you'll start to look for different
strategies, like how to equip them with coping mechanisms for the toxic elements
of our society.
It's really tragic when parents lay their own issues (e.g., looking good,
getting applauded, etc.) on their kids.Why not let your kids tell
you what *they're* interested in doing, rather than imposing your own
unresolved needs on them? I'll bet your kids will be wildly interested in
things appropriate to their own age.Childhood is an essential part
of human development. Take it away from your kids and they'll wind up as
troubled adults. Maybe . . . like their parents?