Such a sad story, and now a lesson to all:Even if you're not a
renown "futurist" economist, or especially if you are, you need to plan
for the future. A family's economy is more than bringing
in money. It's what you do with it. It's how you plan for the
bad times, how you plan for death, how you plan for family crises, how you
insure that you reach retirement age debt-free.
Sorry, Reasonable Person, but your post sounds too preachy and judgmental, and
ultimately, unreasonable. You really don't know what this family is going
through. How do you know they didn't plan the best they could? One can
plan for bad times, but one can't predict the nature of future bad times.
Ultimately, it's not so important that they stay as wealthy as they are.
Losing wealth is not such a bad thing in the grand scheme of things. Don't make this story an occasion to assert for preaching and judgements.
You don't know this family.
I'm grateful this family shared with us this touching story of their life.
It makes me realize how lives are changed and unexpected hardships occur. No one
is free from every changing challenges. The one thing I realized is how
important it isnot to judge but to reach out and love those no matter the
conditions or circumstance. My heart aches for them and my prayers are
The sad thing about progressive dementia, is that today is the best day
you're going to have.We have watched relatives struggle to keep
dementia patients home, and in a few cases, it has been detrimental to the
health of the entire family. The patient can become beligerent, abusive, and
hard to handle. The strength Mrs Thredgold has now, will be needed in
multiples, later.My husband and I have vowed to each other, if one
of us is stricken with such an illness, that there is no shame/disrespect in
sending the ill person to a long-term care facility equipped for such
patients.No matter what others here say, it is a bit surprising that
an economist didn't plan for the economy of his household. Mrs Thredgold, please take away his credit card....and replace it with a debit
card linked to a small account or pre-paid card. It's not his fault that
he's using credit unwisely, and it's going to get worse.
My heart goes out to this family. I know if I lost my husband or his mind, I
would be up the proverbial creek without the proverbial paddle no matter how
well we have planned for the future.
Dear Reasonable,My husband worked for Jeff, his brother-in-law, for almost
10 years. I can PROMISE you, he had all kinds of financial safety nets in place,
as he did for us as the employer. This rare neurological disease masquerades as
several other illnesses until it is almost too late. And it's hard to tell
the man who had such a grasp of the understanding of money and the economy that
you're taking all his credit cards away because he's lost that grasp.
He was still Jeff. And he still is, but the slide was slow and
unrecognizable.Jeff and Lynnette are in the prime of life, their
plans for the future were big and bright. Please do not assume you know anything
more than what was stated in the article about them and their situation.
Instead, take a lesson from their predicament and look to the beam in your own
eye rather than knocking everyone down with it as you swing it in judgmental
glares at others. Perhaps the one who needs to get their finances in order is
I am so proud of you big brother for how you are dealing with this challenge. I
have always looked up to you and have been so thrilled with all your
accomplishments over the years. You are blessed with a great wife and family who
love you very much. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily.
I worked with Jeff in SLC as his assistant and 'editor' and for a
short time with is wife in a group for 20th Century Music. During six years as
Jeff's admin, we went from creating his economic pieces manually, to the
digital world -- I loved my job, and still refer to it and to Jeff. To the
Thredgold family, you have my sincere empathy. My nephew was diagnosed with MS
20 years ago; he too has had his frontal cerebral cortex negatively and
extensively diminished. The descriptions of health and financial stress are
unfortunately on target; you're dealing with a different person moment to
moment. It's not with a hopeless view of finality, but with a wish to Jeff
and his family that they will retain the stamina and strength to make it to the
better, happy times. Best, Diane Young Palmer, Hillsboro OR