Author has so idea what he's talking about. Everybody should live together
for a year or two (at least) before committing to marriage. It's religion
that gets in the way of common sense on this issue.
Notice how there was no study referenced in this story. I found a U.S.A. Today
study involving 13,000 people that concluded: "The data show that those who
live together after making plans to marry or getting engaged have about the same
chances of divorcing as couples who never cohabited before marriage." So,
that contradicts the author in this story.
I love how the author dismisses the notion that cohabitating couples are likely
to be less conventional than those who don't. Of course they
are...cohabitation is not a conventional practice in this country. They are, by
definition, less conventional. There is no way to separate that factor. There is also no way to know how many couples, had they chosen not to
cohabitate, might have gotten married, leading to divorce. The preventative
effects of cohabitation on divorce rates is impossible to gauge.
Dear Dennis, kiskumen, and OHBU"The Defining Decade: Why Your
Twenties Matter — and How to Make the Most of Them Now." the extensive
study compiled by Meg Jay and reviewed by many peers in her field of expertise
is the study used for the conclusions of this article. the study is clearly
identified in the article. Perhaps perusal of more than the title of the article
as well as the material itself before jumping to conclusions about religion and
methodology would be a good first step. Also neither author (study or this
article) is a HE.
If you think about it, it makes perfect sense, but not for the reasons the
author postulated. Couples who are more likely to see marriage as a lifelong
committment from the get go would be less likely to deal with difficulties in a
marriage by getting divorced, while those more likely to end the marriage if the
going gets rough would be the same group who would be predisposed to give it a
There have been NUMEROUS studies for many years that indicate living together
before marriage causes a higher likelihood of divorce. On top of that,
it's morally wrong and damaging to children. Women, if someone
doesn't love you enough or have the character to marry you, get rid of him
and find someone who does.
@Cats,"There have been NUMEROUS studies for many years that
indicate living together before marriage causes a higher likelihood of divorce.
On top of that, it's morally wrong and damaging to children."Here we go again with Cats high morals outshining everyone else. Pure
arrogance as usual.Most couples I know cohabited before marriage.
It's a very logical progression for a relationship and more common than you
I'm with Captain Midnight, Cats and the author of the article who did use a
study for back-up, as have many others who have researched and written about
this topic. Marriage is rough, tough and sometimes ever so exasperating, but if
my spouse and I had cohabited before we were married, it would not have worked.
And that means we either would not have had our delightful productive children,
or we would have raised them as divorced parents. Sorry I'm being anecdotal
again, but the author was not.
Is this the latest DN bogeyman?
Re: CaptainMidnightPlease indicate where I said there was no study
cited...perhaps it would behoove you to read my entire comment rather than
peruse it and lump it with others. My point is that all these
studies are a bit flawed because there is no way to fully isolate the impact of
a person's general opinion of marriage and divorce outside cohabitation.
In other words, is cohabitation the cause, or the symptom?
Correlation does not indicate causation... I think that even if this was true
many of those who co-habit and then marry are agreeing to do so when the
relationship is already on the way out... I agree with the question is
cohabitation the cause, or the symptom?