Totally agree.Invest the money in a college savings account. Stop
buying into the hype and guilt associated with kid sports.Spend time
as a family and have dinner together. Go on a bike ride and on a hike.Say NO to over the top coaches. Don't let them manipulate you into
selling your family out.Also, College sports are not all they are
cracked up to be. You miss out on so many other opportunities that the trade
off is just not worth it.Free yourself from all of this nonsense and
choose to be happy and love life!
Yes, one would be shocked that most athletes in professional and college sports
were multi-sport athletes who didn't specialize all year long in just one
sport. Most of the major league players actually didn't play Super
Leagues. In fact, more and more players are coming from Latin America who play
the sport for fun but with passion. They actually play on dirt fields with
sticks rather than with fancy equipment with fancy uniforms with overbearing
parents. Yes, I will await the posters that says specializing
works, my son got a scholarship, this is all great family time etc. I mean 1% or
actually less make it professionally and 3% or so play college ball. But I had
a heckuva lot more fun playing sandlot ball than organized ball and learned a
few lessons in life. We had to work things out, play fair, resolve issues or
your friends wouldn't want you back. We didn't need adults to solve
issues, or rather act like jerks yelling at the umpires, which we didn't
need, or at each other. Youth organized sports has too many coaches who
don't know what they are doing causing burnout and overuse injuries.
If your family loves sports & being active with other families that also
enjoy team sports - it is very rewarding - for the entire family. Our family is
having great experiences with club and school sports! We use the
following seven words before the competition to our children: 1. Have fun. 2.
Play hard. 3. I love you. Simple words that puts no pressure on your child, no
correction, no judgment, just pure love of your child using their gift in
competition. After the competition we ask them: 1. Did you have fun? 2.
I'm proud of you. 3. I love you. It is more than the money invested.
It is fun! Win or lose it is fun! The bonus is staying healthy with exercise!
Basically you spend thousands per year and most free time for your child to earn
a scholarship. If you are lucky. However participation on teams is required
along with performing well in school once in college. Basically a sports
scholarship is just part time college job to help for the cost of college. The
scholarship money is in exchange for their time and effort while students in the
college. Instead let them just play the sport but don't be over the top or
excessive about time and money. Save and invest the difference and they can go
to school with far less financial burden and freedom to study or get a more
stable year round part time job. Activities are good, they lead to better
academic performance. They keep the body moving.
Five of my children played college sports. Two on athletic scholarship and
three played for college club teams. Four were multi-sport athletes in high
school and enjoyed playing. I am glad that we allowed our children to
experience multiple sports and develop a love of playing. There
were times that playing on a club team did get in the way of family time but
there were also times that the club coach was told our children would miss some
training time and games. Fortunately most of those club coaches understood the
importance of family time and the need for players to have summer time with
families outside of the sport. I am not sure if club coaches today are as
understanding. Playing is fun and fun should always be the most
important reason to play. All of us will not be college athletes, some of us
will, but we should all have fun playing whatever sport we choose to play.
I agree. My husband and I made way too many mistakes in child rearing, but we
didn't make this one. I am so grateful. We tried to provide them with a few
team sports opportunities, but we never made it a big thing. We did emphasize
acquiring a good basic education (Carden Memorial School helped with that), and
they all ended up with academic scholarships. Now varying philosophies are in
play with grandchildren, but they are also doing well with academics and seem to
be headed in the right direction. Best of all, our children are better parents
than we were!
NH Transplant...That is great that your children were able to well
rounded (assuming you were responsible) and understood the principle's that
you mentioned.As an sports official for the past 25 years, I think
the article is talking about those parents that live through their kids in
sports. Intense pressure is put on the kid to perform to "their" level
expectation. They drive their kids more and more...only to see them burn out and
leave sports all together.I have seen families who use sports as a
way to bond, have fun and enjoy the experience of playing sports. I am sad to
say those are far and few between.
Every parent and youth coach should read the following books when deciding what
to do with their children's youth sport experience.Coaching
Outside the Box: Changing the Mindset in Youth SoccerThe Talent
CodeParenting Young Athletes the Ripken Way: Ensuring the Best
Experience for Your Kids in Any Sport
I said what I said as a high school coach of four decades and a former college
athlete. What we are doing with sports specializing, year-round leagues
isn't helping our athletes get any better. Sometimes it takes quite a bit
to unravel the effects of bad super league coaching in both the bad techniques
taught and restoring the love of the game. And for many of these youth sports
participants, the joy of the game is lost and they quit these games forever.
Unfortunately, many kids in neighborhoods don't even know how to do sandlot