This is such a sad story. However, it is a valuable lesson. Parents can no
longer just sit on the couch or stay in their officers all day and night long
expecting Facebook, Playstation, and friends to raise their children. No matter
what presents or vacations you take, nothing will substitute for good parenting.
To state in this article that the girl is a runaway, but not in "imminent
danger" is ludicrous. If, she was lured away by somebody she met online, I
would wager she is in tremendous danger. Poor parents, how frightening and
heartbreaking. How do we closely monitor our children's use of social
media? Either by standing over them every minute they are on the computer, or
denying them access to it. It is literally impossible, like making sure they
don't breathe unless you give them permission. Warning, talking, teaching,
lecturing, etc., etc. will only go so far with certain kids, cause there are
always those kids who want to make all their own mistakes, and usually suffer
awful consequences because of their poor choices.
"The best ways to protect kids is simply to talk to them, Call said."A gate is only as good as the fence it is attached to. Talking with
them isn't enough. You need to form genuine relationships, and yes, you
need to supervise. A teenager with a smartphone is a problem waiting to happen.
I work in a position where I have, at times, had to go into these kids'
facebook page. You would be appalled at the things I see in them and the
language they use. I would hope they don't use it at home, or pose the way
they do for pics they post. If they do, then I'm not surprised by the
trouble they get in. Most parents have no clue what their kids are doing, they
don't know who their friends are, they have no clue as to what to tell
police because they are totally clueless when it comes to their kids. I guess
I'm a horrible person when I demand to know who my kids associate with and
where they live and what activities they are involved in, but then, I'm
usually involved also. My kids haven't complained, but if they ever came
up missing, I would have a whole list of contacts and places my kids go to when
the police ask. How many of you have your list? Get involved with your kids so
their BFF's aren't 27 - 30 year old men trolling for young kids.
Actually, the best way to protect one's children would be to remove all
access to social media sites, in addition to complete removal of
television....more supervision by adults and less supervision by one's
who is she trying to impress with that much makeup at 16?
Parents need to parent...not try to be their child's best friend. The old
rules that I grew up with - "where are you going, who are you going with and
when will you be home" still work. A young person needs limits and it is up
to parents to provide them...even tho it gets you mean looks from time to time.
I drive for UTA. I see a lot of juveniles out late at night unsupervised.
Usually with their peers. Other drivers tell me they have seen teenagers sneak
to the back of bus and then change clothes, usually something immodest.
Children needs rules and supervision. Someday they will thank you for being a
parent instead of their best friend.
Parents?Hello?Where are you?Have any of her
brothers or sisters had issues like this too?I have dealt with many
of these types of cases before in my profession and 99.9 % of the time this:A. Isn't the first time this sort of thing has happened. Teens
typically just don't go from being great students and obedient loving
children to runaways overnight. B. The Parents have been completely
disengaged for years. This is clearly a sign of a bigger issue.
Where are the parents? For how long have you folks been having a degrading
relationship with your daughter? My guess is she will come back from Vegas in a
few days, after getting his fill of thrills. But what happens after ward? That
is the question.
Just because a child decides to do something stupid doesn't mean that
it's the parent's fault. If this was the case, then, our Heavenly
Parent's were awful because they lost one third of their sons and
daughters.People who always blame the parent's either
don't have children or they think that their children have never done any
wrong.secondly, it isn't always the "kind of people"
with whom your children associate that is the cause of their bad behavior.
Maybe it is your child that is the bad influence on their peers. All parent's, that I have met, want to think that it is their child that
is being influenced by someone else's child, but that isn't always the
case.The best we can do is to teach our children correct principles,
and pray that those principles sink in, but if they don't, we
shouldn't go around blaming some other kid.
Sitting in a car service waiting room and seeing pictures of this young teenager
on the screen in the various media forms, she appeared to be older than a
15-year old due to her makeup and poses. This is sad that she was in a visual
image for the world to see and others that would entice her to leave the
protection of a home in a good community.Having had a child run away
in high school, it is sad to have happen. Fortunately, someone good returned
him to us. It appears to be different for a young woman but it is still heart
wrenching to have one's child missing.