I think this is badly needed in high school and youth sports. I don't
think you need to require coaches and parents to be silent, but clearly many of
them just cannot get a clue as to when they are "over the line".....so
clearly they need some help.I also can't help but wonder if
this isn't affected by the political discourse in this country. There is
so much angry rhetoric and disrespect toward those who have differing opinions.
We have lost the most basic sense of professionalism and courtesy toward one
another. It is beyond time to reign it in.
If parental behavior has deteriorated since my 30's daughter played
competition soccer, I think this might be necessary. I wish I had had more
courage back then to express my displeasure at three or four parents who's
lack of respect for their kids, the game, the refs, and the community, often
made me embarrassed and ashamed.
To: utahprincipal801, I agree with you totally. What happened to the good
example we have a responsibility to set? I don't go to any type of activity
anymore because it is humiliating to watch these grownups act like children and
the sad thing is that the children or adults do not appreciate this kind of out
of control behavior. What happened to enjoyment without embarrassment? My heart
goes out to these kids who have parents who are guilty of this.
I coached girls softball for about 7 years, boys baseball for 4, and I saw it
all. A couple of us set up our own girls softball league because we were
unhappy with a number of things with the other leagues, and we had to address
this very issue.We noticed at some big tournaments that parents were
required to sign codes of conduct, and they were enforced by any of a number of
people - umpires, coaches, even sometimes the girls. There were a bunch of
"don't"s (no alcohol, no drugs, no tobacco around the field), but
there were a lot of positive things parents agreed to do. An umpire stopping a
game to single out a parent in the stands can have a big impact. A coach
threatening a parent to remove a girl from a game or from the team is pretty
powerful, but embarrassing for the girl.The most effective was when
the entire team stood up and stared down an offending parent - of one of their
own! That probably had the most lasting effect on a parent.
No issue about this article regarding parental behavior at youth sporting
events, up to a point. If it's about sportsmanship and parents getting
involved in the heat of the game, yep, I'll all for better sideline
behavior. However, I have noticed there is always 1 aspect of parental sideline
behavior that is ignored in these types of articles. That is regarding the safe
conduct of the game. Parents are asked to turn over their children to the
safety supervision of the referees and coaches of the game. That is a serious
commitmen on the part of the refs and coaches. When they are negligent in their
efforts to 1) enforce the laws of the game to provide appropriate safety to the
youth or 2) continue to encourage or demand injured players to stay in the game
, I believe they have violated that commitment, and parents displaying their
disagreement with that sort of negligence to protect the healt of their children
is more than justified.
My parents never interfered because they never came. Mostly I played with my
friends at the school or out on the street. It was fun and I didn't need
my parents to watch me. We had some conflicts now and then but we learned to
work it out ourselves.