I love the "joy and the chaos" part. You really nailed my emotions.
Thanks for reminding me it's about the experiences on the list, not just
crossing items off.
As I understand it, a bucket list consists of things you want to do before you
die so that you have no regrets as to missing something you really wanted to do
in life. Calling a teenager's summer goals a "bucket list" seems
an awfully strange use of the term. Surely they all think they are invincible
and will never die, so why wouldn't they have literally decades instead of
just one summer to do whatever they wanted? If that statement is true then it
is not a "bucket list" in any sense of the term. Please be careful when
revising meanings of words. (Remember when the phrase "That's OK"
meant yes instead of no?)
Toosmartforyou, I think of it as a list of things you want to do before you run
out of time. And summer is such a fleeting thing to a child. So I chose to use
the word to capture that sense of before time runs out. I doubt the dictionary
will change its mind about meaning because of anything I write, but I'm
okay with that.