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A foolish premise and a foolish article.Next time, women and children hurt
most by felony convictions.Or, women and children hurt most by
unemployment.Or, women and children hurt most by higher milk prices.Or, women and children hurt most by sunburn.Or, women and children hurt
most by tax increases.Pick a topic; we'll make it fit.Whatever
happened to the NEWSpaper? I'm tired of these themes written for a
There are no easy sollutions! Public housing is a poor approch at easing the
problem. Landlords have bills and obligations they must meet. They are not all
evil and serve a need in our society.
"Eviction is a problem that disproportionately affects America's
poor"Really? So is harassment by debt collectors. So are a
plethora of problems that stem from people NOT PAYING THEIR BILLS. Of course the
"poor" are going to be "effected" more by those problems. News flash: "Problems that stem from being poor disproportionately
affect poor people." And while you're at it: "Top-of-head sunburns
disproportionately affect bald people." and "Ovarian cancer
disproportionately affects women."Shall I go on? Ridiculous
premise for an article.
When I have single mothers with their children AND multiple "companion
animals", who have their bills paid for by some government program, trashing
my apartments and making my other tenants call the police you betcha, I'm
evicting them.If these women would just decide to leave the drama in their
past instead of dragging it along in their and their children's lives they
would fare far better in this life.But some people just can't
live without their drama.
The solution is not public housing. Have you been to the projects in South
Philly? How about Dorchester, MA? These are crime infested, HORRIBLE places to
live.The real answer is education, and people learning that the
behavior of family members/spouses can cause incredible harm to their families.
Blaming the landlord is like blaming the gas station for not giving free gas to
anyone with a hard-luck story. Sadly, we enable lifestyles of dependence with
these government programs, rather than addressing the underlying problems. And
dependency on government programs has been shown to be a multi-generational
problem that is passed from parent to child.Focus on solving the
underlying problem rather than the symptoms and the odds of longer-term success
Good to know some who read this article are doing all the right things and have
reaped those rewards, including the good fortune to be able to find the
education where they needed to, fund it, and find not only employers along the
way who gave them opportunities to show their skills, but the careers that
enabled them to live and finance the lifestyle enabling them to not be so
concerned about paying bills and even enjoying life a little. Not even all the
people who do all the right things find the openings to prove themselves in
either training, educational, or employment settings. It may be because of many
things. It might be even due to medical reasons, age, or a personal quirk of the
person doing the interview. Yes, folks, interviewers are human and not always
fair, and we on the other side have to live with it, can't always avoid it,
and may end up, if we came before a solution was made, living with it, to our
detriment. ADA offered many an opportunity to try. So before you criticize, walk
a mile in their shoes, mentally, then be thankful for your blessings.
Boy you would never guess this is a Christian paper by the comments. “If this is going to be a Christian nation that doesn't help the
poor, either we have to pretend that Jesus was just as selfish as we are, or
we've got to acknowledge that He commanded us to love the poor and serve
the needy without condition and then admit that we just don't want to do
it.” Stephen CobertAlso, did anyone commenting here bother to
notice that minority women are grossly overrepresented in the eviction
statistics and payed significantly less for the same job as their white male
The last line of the article reads, "The problem is, most people don't
find out about us until it is too late," The problem is, women
are hurt most by being sexually active before they are married; andWomen
are hurt most by having babies out of wedlock; andWomen are hurt by
having children by multiple men; and Women are hurt by shacking up with
dead beat men;
Yep, men never get hurt. Especially white men.
Let's think this through, the woman featured in this article doesn't
make enough money to support her family of nine children while her husband is
incarcerated. While I feel bad for her situation, it appears that some poor
choices have caused this problem. As a couple, they chose to have more children
than most families could support. How are they to provide a quality, secure life
for that many children? Her husband obviously made some poor choices that now
make the financial situation even worse. The woman has some tough
decisions to make to provide safe and secure homes for her children. Does she
have family members who could act as foster parents to her children while she
works on getting her own life in order?
It costs more to publicly shelter a family than to cover a few months rent for a
family going through an unusual issue.
The article complains that welfare stipends are not large enough to cover high
rents. Basic economics would suggest that if you increase welfare amounts, the
cost of rent will go up (pricing more working families out of the market). It
is sad to see the difficulties this family is facing. But the solution for
society in general is obvious. Don't have nine kids if you can't
afford to support them. Don't commit crimes that will land you in jail if
you are responsible to support nine kids. For this particular family, it
is awesome that their church and a local nonprofit are helping them. That is
the way it should be.
I am glad that the woman featured in this article got help. I have compassion
for women who are trying to raise a family... they are like handcart pioneers
pushing through the snow, doing all they can... and we are eternally wrong if we
do not reach out and help if we are able.Were there bad decisions?
Sure. It was stupid for the Martin and Willie handcart companies to leave so
late in the season. It was idiotic to build carts out of unseasoned wood. They
were warned about early snow by those who had traveled that way before... but
they went anyway. Does that mean that we have no obligation to
bring them in from the cold or help them? If so, we are "in the gall of
bitterness and the bonds of iniquity." Was their plight really
any different than this woman's story? Shame on those who can,
but will not help. One day they will be asked if they ever heard
these sobering words, "If ye have done it unto one of these, the least of my
brethren, ye have done it unto me."We must help.
What about the landlord and his family that has to subsidize the housing until
the people either pay the rent or leave? I'm sure they are also
hurting.What might help the situation the most, is if there were
jobs being created. Rather than finding ways to redistribute what little
resources that are left.
No mention of why the father went to jail. No mention of why these women
can't move in with extended family or friends. Leaving these details out
of the story makes the story dishonest - as if this calamity "happened"
to these folks, and they didn't have a friend in the world. Where are the
grandparents, aunts, co-workers, neighbors, friends? The story doesn't
make sense without knowing this information.PS. We took in friends - a
family of 8 for 4 months. Also a neighbor, and her 2 children for 2 months.
Other friends of ours took in a family of 7 who lost their home in a fire. I
know many people who have done this, so where were these families' natural
So what is the alternative? Force the owner of the property to allow someone to
live rent free until the owner cannot pay the mortgage anymore. I have been an
eviction attorney in Utah for a while and there is no doubt that some people can
be harmed. But in a lot of the evictions I have seen, the owners of the
residence almost lose the property in foreclosure because the tenant is not
paying the rent and the owners use that rent payment to turn around and pay the
mortgage. Evictions are an unforunate situation for everyone but we cannot force
individual landlords to carry the financial burdens of someone else.