I agree completely with the Eyre's on this. A few ideas to stem the tide
of entitlement among children:1) Do not give an
"allowance". Instead, offer a small monetary payment for one weekly
job, such as mowing the lawn, raking leaves, sweeping out the garage, etc.
Avoid payment for chores such as cleaning their rooms, cleaning up after dinner,
or other daily tasks.2) Split major expenses with children rather
than just pay for them. The split amount should depend on the cost of the item,
the child's ability to earn their way, and the nature of the item (an iPod
may be 20/80 while a new team jacket could be 50/50). We even have the children
pay 50/50 for most summer camps. It is enlightening to see what the children
really value/enjoy when their money is also on the table.3)Help them
save at least 50% of their income for longer-term expenses. They can also be
taught to invest their savings wisely in investment vehicles like quality,
blue-chip stocks and diversified mutual funds. Let them feel the excitement of
seeing their savings grow.
I'm a little concerned with the Eyre's conflation of children's
sense of entitlement without contribution in families, and the political issues
surrounding the word "entitlement." Social Security &
Medicare are not things people get without having contributed anything. They
are things that people pay into all their lives. I hope I'm not being
over-sensitive. But I find the idea that people who've paid into Social
Security & Medicare all their lives feel entitled to Social Security &
Medicare when they reach a certain age, are somehow comparable to spoiled
children who hold their hand out for their allowance when they haven't done
their chores, insulting, dismissive, and borderline dishonest.And
one last thing. There is a rather predominant notion among many conservatives
that other "entitlement" programs are simply loaded with lazy, shiftless
people who refuse to work. There are most certainly people who game the system.
But that too, is an insulting, dismissive, and woefully inaccurate
I agree with the Eyres and carman. As for KMCopeland, please explain to your
Democrat friends that your inclusion of Social Security as an entitlement is not
a Republican definition. Gov. Romney's reference to the whole subject
related only to who he will concentrate on during the campaign. Most people know
that and I excpect you know it. Move on, you are beginning to sound stupid.
KMCopeland:Yes, you are being oversensitive and frankly, off topic.
The Eyres did not mention Social Security or MediCare. They spoke only of a
culture that is becoming more entitlement minded. This is an article about
teaching responsibility, consequences, and work ethic. It is focused on helping
families think about not letting broader trends of an ever list of expanding
"rights" to various goods and services become part of their
children's expectations.Social Security and Medicare are an
entirely different subject. They are plagued more by over-promising and a lack
of political will to address the problem than they are from a sense of
entitlement.And I agree with Chas. You need to move on.