Great advice. My son was bullied to of violence and I had to pull him out of
school. The number one thing I would say to do is start working on boosting his
self esteem. Their self esteem takes a huge hit from the bullies. Pump him up
and as suggested, be supportive. Say nothing like, well maybe they are just
being kids...they are bullies. Call it by name - Use the "B" word when
you talk to the school. Be a momma bear! No one is out the protect your kid
except you. Schools and teachers are not equipped to handle this stuff. Another
good program is Project Cornerstone, but remember, while these programs are
great, they will not likely help your boy's current situation. Lastly, the
apple usually does not fall far from the tree, talking to the parents can be
hard and fruitless. Empowering your son with tactics and bully proof self esteem
are critical. PS...my boy has the gift of dyslexia too! :-)You have a creative
kid on your hands - embrace it! There is hope and he will come out of this
stronger for it. On Chapter 12 of "You" Drs.! Great book!
My brother had similar challenges. His life changed the day my parents put him
in karate. Not only did he learn self defense (he only had to beat up one kid -
that was trying to beat on him.... never again), but it improved his confidence.
My son was also bullied and beaten on the school grounds. Unfortunately, the
administration at his school preferred to ignore the problem and their focus was
on trying to teach my son how to cope. They refused to even acknowledge that
the bullies existed until we mentioned "lawyer" and all of a sudden, the
principal was bending over backwards. Recognize that while there are some
excellent teachers out there who can truly make a difference (my son's 6th
grade teacher was the best teacher he ever had), the administration just wants
it to go away. Find a place that won't allow bullying behavior where your
child feels safe and although it may take some time, he will absolutely blossom.
Look for a school with expeditionary learning options who teach different
methods from traditional that will allow your child's strengths to shine.
My child also has some disabilities and truly gifted talents and when we found
his current school, he slowly became confident and strong and is now and A and B
student in his senior year! Don't think it will go away. It absolutely
will not. Be your son's best advocate and good luck!!!