Sorry, hate to do this, I don't want to be the PC police - I adopted my son. I'd
never want him to believe his birth parents "gave up their baby" as
stated in the 10th paragraph, or "put it up" as stated in the first
paragraph. Instead, my son's birth parents loved him enough to give him a
different life than they could not provide at the time. "Place a
child" for adoption is better term. I wish that the author of this article
about adoption would have done a little more research instead of using such
In other news: **'Sex ed bill amended, impact unclear among Utah
lawmakers' **'Obama to change birth control rule'
Don't get me wrong, I am all FOR adoption. I know people who have been adopted
and I would never, EVER want someone to go through the system without
parents. That said, there is a factual statement I need to make
here. If peolpe hare more education, if people knew and had more
access to tools to PLAN a pregnancy on their terms... there would be
LESS children, who would be put up for adoption. Again, I am not
AGAINST adoption. I am against a child being raised, without two
parents. Which is a factual possibility, when putting a child up
for, adoption. Our children deserve BETTER, than parents who have
not ability, to support them.
One big issue with this is that it allows an abusive boy friend more control. I
know of several cases where the boyfriend or even ex-husband refused to sign the
adoption papers, not because he wanted to care for the baby, but it was a method
of controlling his ex and making her "pay" for breaking up with him.
In those cases, the birthmother was forced to care for a baby that she was not
able to take care of. The end results of this are often that the state ends up
coming in and taking the baby away and placing it in foster care anyway. There
needs to be a better balance of paternal rights vs birthmother rights.
Birthfathers who are actually in a position to care for a baby and are willing
to show that they are capable should have rights, but this should be determined
on a case by case basis. Otherwise, we would be giving more control to abusive
men as has been done in many other states. Utah is actually a breath of fresh
air when it comes to paternal rights.
I could be wrong, but if birthfathers really loved and wanted to care for their
children wouldn't they also want to marry the birthmother, too?
Certainly education is a good thing. The greatest and most effective tool
anyone has when it comes to planning when to have children is the ability to
choose not to have sex until they are ready to have children.
Education also reveals that there are some serious adverse health risks
associated with birth control, such as blood clots.As with a few
other medications that have been advertised on TV to then later advertise that
if you've taken these medications you may be eligible to file a class action law
suit. There is one form of birth control involved in such a thing. Who pays
for these law suits?So the safest, most effective method of birth
control remains waiting to have sex until you are ready to have children.