This article should be prefaced with the word
Strange comment by Joe....Don't newspapers usually do book reviews?As Des News readers we have been blessed with a lot of advance insights from
the Eyres about Entitlement (which I agree is the biggest parenting problem of
our day....if not the biggest problem of our society in general) and it is good
to know that the book is now out so that everyone can get in on the solutions!
While I applaud the concept of teaching children to take responsibility in the
family economy, I do not like the word "ownership." Rather, I think it
would be wiser to switch that out and insert "stewardship" as a more
accurate term, particularly for LDS families. Ownership as a concept can also
lead to a sense of entitlement whereby people become selfish and miserly.
Stewardship, however, properly places us in the position of caretaking, sharing
and giving back without resentment.
"entitlement" = completely over used and over applied phrase.I agree with Jans - Stewardship is a great word that applies to a whole lot of
situations - like our kids. We don't own or kids nor have any ownership over
them.... we have a stewardship. We have a stewardship to our faith, our family,
our community, our country and this planet which was given to us and to pass
along to our future generations.But then again, that starts sounding
"liberal", so I best stop right there.
@ UtahBlueDevilYour insinuation that "stewardship" is a
word that "liberals" use almost made me fall out of my chair.If only, IF ONLY, our current President and "liberal" friends could
even understand the word "stewardship" in regards to my tax dollars,
I'd fall out of my chair again.In my opinion, rather than sounding
like a liberal, you actually sound like a member of the Tea Party when you start
asking the government for better stewardship.
USAlover... if you could show me in real terms how this president is spending
our tax dollars any differently, I would help you back into your seat.But on a line by line level, spending hasn't changed hardly at all. Where,
please show me, has the budget gone completely different? Today. Not two years
down the road, not five... but today.To your last comment..... you
are absolutely spot on. On some issues, I am absolutely in synch with the tea
party. On other issues - views that deregulating wall street is the cure - I am
not. Its how I think most people are..... issue by issue - not party vs party.
@bluedevil, I don't see anywhere in the article where it suggests that we
"own" our children or anything close to that.Stewardship is a
great term though, I just don't think many outside the church recognize it for
what it is.Entitlement on the other hand is clear and unmistakable.Sometimes over used words and phrases are still simply the best.Kinda
These writers must watch youth and high school sports in Utah. Talk about
AZRods.... you are absolutely right, Ownership isn't in there, but then again
often goes hand in hand with "entitlement". Parents often feel they
are entitled to the respect and love of their kids, or often make demands of
their kids by virtue of being parents - they are entitled to respect.Respect, trust, faith, all are earned, none are granted or given. Entitled is
a pretty broad term... and I think those in uniform for this country understand
very well what stewardship and responsibility are all about.But that
is just me.
@Just-a-fan: Could you elaborate please?I think we are quibbling
over semantics here and somehow politics and liberal politicians versus the Tea
Party got thrown into the mix- let's get back to the theme of the article.I think it is always a good idea when parents teach kids how to budget
their money, save for what they want, etc. We learned the HARD way that our
kids should have had checking accounts all through high school so we could teach
them how NOT to bounce checks and keep close tabs on their balances, etc. Helps
to look at monthly budget and see where their money goes and where the family
finances are spent. I don't believe in shielding kids from financial challenges
the family experiences; let them be a part of the solution. Teach them to
listen to the Spirit in deciding difference between needs and wants. I don't
care whether you call it ownership or stewardship, our kids took better care of
their belongings when they paid for them themselves.
I am from the generation that is accused of feeling entitled. It is it ironic
that the same folks who wrote the parenting books that my parents relied upon,
the same preschool curriculum that was used in my preschool, and have spoken as
authorities on parenting over the years are now complaining that my generation
somehow feels entitled. And now, they are trying to fix that?
Another aspect to this problem, in my humble opinion, is the fact that children
today are often given few chances to actually sontribute in a meaningful way to
the world around them (outside of church service projects). I think people focus
too much on the money itself, as if it will, somehow, sprinkle magical salvation
from all problems if shifted this way or that. The short answer is that money
itself will not solve our problems, whether those problems are on a household,
county, state, national, or world-wide level. If we want our children to not
feel entitled, perhaps we should focus on showing them how they can serve a
meaningful purpose in the world around them. When children learn more and get
more sence of fulfillment from playing video games than they do from school and
life, they are more likely to withdraw into that world that gives them a chance
to participate meaningfully in our world and less likely to help out around the
house. Similarly, parents often require money from working teens, which usually
serves to further a sence of entitlement even more. It's a large and complex
problem that one bandaid won't cure.