free formula at hospitals raises some concerns
Look, I'm a guy, but in the name of equal right's, here's my 2 cents worth.
BACK UP HERE, hospitals sending newborns home with formula "is like giving
somebody divorce papers at their wedding?." Hospitals have been offering
formula freebies for decades, there's nothing wrong with that. There's always
one in every croud that's some breast-feeding activist who fought to get those
goody bags out of hospitals, walks down main street with a sign that reads
"breast is best," What sets me off, is when they do it in front of
everyone in public as if its cool to show yourself to all. That's sick.
One should never turn their nose up at formula. Billions of babies were raised
on formula and have turned out very well. At some point, you may be in a
situation where you can't breast feed. That's where formula comes in. Your
milk may dry up - what are you going to do then? You will use formula. Too many
women these days talk about formula like it is poison. I don't understand that.
Alot of women do not want to breast feed - or can't. And, as a woman I find it
very uncomfortable to sit in the same area as a breastfeeding woman. That's
just the way I feel.
I hope the hospitals don't listen to the over zealou group on this one. Each
mother has a choice, and it is her's to make, not some group that thinks they
know what is best for everyone. There are many reasons why some infants are
bottle fed. This group should mind their own business and let mothers make the
choice with all knowledge they have, even if it includes a sample of formula. I
can't image that this gift bag would sway a mother one way or antoher. SILLY!!
Well, the first two posters both felt compelled to add that
"disgusting" breastfeeding moms make them "uncomfortable."
I wonder if Brother Schroeder finds women in form-fitting, or low-cut tops
equally "disgusting." Momofbron has a point that formula does nourish
many children, however, the fact that she apparently didn't breastfeed herself
shouldn't make her look down "uncomfortably" on the many women who
make it their personal priority. Both Brother Schroeder and
Momofbron illustrate the point that there is already a lot of societal pressure
against breastfeeding. As for the goody bag formula samples, I just
followed a good bit of advice and added them to my pancake batter, in place of
milk. Waste not, want not.
You don't want the formula? Don't accept the gift. You are in no way forced to
take it. In fact leave it for someone who will use it! Some women aren't able
to breast feed. Simple as that. Why do you think there were "milk
maids" in maternity wards ages ago in hospitals??? As a preemie I was
formula fed, later graduated from college, and feel that I'm overall an
intelligent individual. Our own son wasn't gaining weight while breast feeding
(something that could lead to poor brain development) and we had to switch to
formula. The lactation consultants made me feel like I was doing something so
horrible. Our pediatrican made me feel better about the situation. She grew up
in Korea, was fed condensed milk as an infant, and became a doctor. Hmmm...you
mean people have control over their lives beyond breast milk? Yes! Our son is
smart and has a healthy immune system. For this reason I have no problem
formula feeding our next baby. It's our choice same as it is for someone to
choose exclusive breast feeding. Why can't the breast feeding side just leave
formula feeders alone?
I am a mother who breastfed and formula fed so I feel like I can rightfully put
my opinion in. I agree with Brother Schroeder and Momofbron that it is
disgusting for women to feed wherever and whenever they like! Find a more
secluded spot where you won't catch so many people's attention or buy/make a
cover! I know it makes my husband really uncomfortable seeing women breastfeed
in public. Just be courteous! There is nothing wrong with not wanting to only
breastfeed but respect other people and the choices they make. I personally
enjoyed giving formula way more than breastfeeding and I breastfed for 7 months.
Hopefully I'll have a better experience with it with my next one but I know I'm
still going to use formula because in some situations it was way more
convienent. I'm glad hospitals give out samples, they are just offering other
alternatives if breastfeeding is not right for you.
I think that the push to get rid of the formula samples in hospitals may be a
bit extreme. However, I do think that informational material on breast feeding
and the benefits thereof, should also be included. Hospitals should not have
sponsorships. The same problem exists in nearly every Doctor's office and it
seems to promote giving out prescriptions for things that don't need to be
medicated. Is formula necessarily bad? Nah. Is breastfeeding better
for the child? Most likely. Is breastfeeding many many times cheaper than
formula? You bet it is. That's why formula companies push so hard in the
hospital. Once a baby takes to a bottle, it's difficult to get them back to the
breast. That turns into a lot of profit for formula manufacturers. Now, about breastfeeding in public. As a male, it does make me uncomfortable
to a degree. The problem with this, however, is not that the mother is doing so.
The problem is that, as a society, we have made it into a big deal where it
shouldn't be. As a society, we need to grow up in this regard.
I got free formula when I brought my babies home. I put it in our emergency
supply kit, in case I wasn't there when an emergency happened. It's a gift --
treat it like that awkward gift from someone who doesn't really know what you'd
like, and either make use of it or give it away.
I have two daughters. One I exclusively gave formula and the other I breast fed.
Both are smart, don't food allergies, neither was overly sick as a baby, and I
feel I bonded equally with both. Today's formula is a lot better than it was
twenty, thirty, years ago.When I left the hospital, I wasn't confused
about the doctor or the hospitals stance on breast feeding was. They crammed it
down my throat so there was no mistaking their stance. In the "Formula
freebie" bag it had tips on nursing and even nursing pads. Honestly, I
didn't get a mixed message nor was I confused. I clearly understood the argument
for breastfeeding.Honestly, many people depend on the free samples to help
stretch their budget. I think by prohibiting hospitals to give them out, you are
taking away a mothers right to choose what is best for her and the baby. Stop
making mothers feel guilty if they choose not to breastfeed or cannot. If
you don't want the sample politely decline it or give it away.
ThatsSoUtah got it right. Hospitals should encourage breastfeeding and not
have sponsorships. But the breastfeeding crowd probably should lighten up a bit.
I am a big supporter of breast feeding having breastfed all 5 of my
babies for the first year of their lives. However, there are so many
women in so many different circumstances that if a new mom chooses to use
formula - so what? Breast feeding for me was extremely difficult but I was a
stay-at-home mom with the time I needed to tough it out. If I had had to work
outside the home I could not have stuck with it until it smoothed out, which for
me was a few months with occasional difficulties throughout the entire year.Breastfeeding is best, but formula works too and "formula
moms" should not be made to feel guilty. There's enough unnecessary guilt
when it comes to parenting.
I breastfed both of my children for more than a year, and I've fed my babies in
every imaginable location (including in the middle of sacrament meeting because
my hungry baby was wailing and it was less disruptive than crawling over 10
people with all my baby gear and then walking out). I also used a nursing
poncho that completely covered my baby and my upper body.Breast is
definitely best *BUT* I had a serious gall-bladder attack 5 weeks after my son
was born and needed to have it removed. Due to both my own illness and the
general anesthesia, I couldn't nurse for a day and a half. I was very grateful
for those little samples then! If I didn't have them, I would have needed to
buy a whole can of expensive formula that I would never use. Life happens.Banning formula doesn't encourage breastfeeding. To do that, we need to
encourage businesses and culture to be more open to the concept that breasts are
functional rather than simply ornamental. And society perceiving women's bodies
as purposeful instead of objects would benefit women and society as a whole.
Oh brother ... clearly, some people will argue about everything!
"I'm not having that in our house?" Seriously? It's infant formula,
not cocaine. I get really tired of listening to the rants of these
"lacto-terrorists". Whether a mom uses formula or breastfeeds is her
own business; she shouldn't be guilted or shamed into one or the other. I got
severely ill in the first weeks of my firstborn's infancy and dried up. There
wasn't a milk bank available, and I doubt I could have afforded it anyway.
Formula was the best option then. I pumped with the second but kept the formula
samples the hospital sent home in the emergency supply. There are pros and cons
to both sides, but some of these activists will give it to you with fingers
stuffed in their ears.
The free samples are definitely not the problem. Likewise, formula is much
improved and children grow up just fine drinking it. That being said, my wife
and I were more than a little upset when our first child was born and the
workers in the nursery decided to bottle-feed her, against our explicit wishes,
in order to give us a bit more sleep. She took to the breast fine for the first
couple feedings, but after that night, she never really went back, despite
months of trying. When we lodged our complaints about this unethical problem,
everybody at the hospital and the OB/GYN office simply acted like it was no big
deal because it happens all the time.
Re: Midwest Mom - 8:02 a.m. Soldiers Grove, WI I wonder if Brother
Schroeder finds women in form-fitting, or low-cut tops equally
"disgusting." Reply: Even though I have some "Family
Values", it's human nature to look, if a female sticks it in front of you.
I'm only human to. I don't find it "disgusting." What
really sets me off is when there is a woman who is still breastfeeding her 8 yr
old daughter. Is that ok to do in public also?. I saw this great story on
abc's 20/20 on women who continue to breast feed their children past infancy.
The story is of a young woman with 3 children who she breast fed past
kindergarten. You see her young son asking his mother for the breast, and this
sight disturbed me a bit. Maybe it's because I have never hear of this before,
but it caught me off guard and therefore I reacted harshly. I just don't get why
a mother feels the need to continue breast feeding after your child can walk,
and talk. Then the other problem I have is this. In malls, Men's & Ladies
rest room, then "Family Restroom?."
As a college student who is majoring in Nutritional Science and Dietetics and a
licensed massage therapist, I think both sides need to lighten up. There are
times when nursing is great(inexpensive, helps bonding process between mother
and child, helps baby's immune system to develop, easier on baby's digestion et
cetera), and times when bottle feeding is a better idea)illness, surgery, issues
with mother's lactation process such as not enough or milk produced is to
watery, et cetera). These new mothers should be thoroughly educated in
all of the options available to them and be given practical advice on what
tends to work best for their particular situation and not favor one method over
another for political reasons. .
All the mammals in the forest feed their babies the way Mother Nature intended
and none of them have access to formula. Where breast feeding works why pay
come corporation for formula that isn't needed? It is an incredible way for
mother and infant to bond, and isn't that what motherhood is all about?
Re: Rifleman - 11:45 a.m.Salt Lake City, Utah It is an incredible way for
mother and infant to bond, and isn't that what motherhood is all about? Reply: So to is changing the diapers and allowing the father to work and
bring home the bread and butter.Re: Re: Rifleman - 11:45 a.m.Salt
Lake City, Utah All the mammals in the forest feed their babies the way
Mother Nature intended and none of them have access to formula. Why pay come
corporation for formula that isn't needed?Reply again: That's your
GOP for big business capitalist ways from bureaucrats and lobbiests, as for all
mammals in the forest feed their babies the way Mother Nature intended, they
have 4 legs, not two legs like in Human form. Perhaps you need to get out more
in the world, not hang around like the Walton's in the barn all day milking
cows. That's my view.
Rifleman -Being a man I can safely assume you have never breastfed.
Far many women what comes "naturally" is a very difficult
process that can be very painful - even if you are doing it correctly. It is
most difficult the first 2 -8 weeks.I remember nursing my first baby
and really resenting the pictures I would see in magazine of skinny women,
dressing in flowing white nightgowns, sitting so relaxed in a rocking chair,
moonlight streaming through the nearby window and nursing a peaceful baby. I
felt it was false advertising. I remember being so sore the first
month I would curl up in a ball of pain every time I plugged my baby on (which
was every two- three hours day and night, not to mention the monthly breast
infections I would get which would make nursing even more painful. It does
smooth out but it can be very hard the first little while and while I believe
breastfeeding is best I don't blame women who cannot or choose not to deal with
the "start-up" phase of nursing.
Re: Brother Chuck Schroeder | 12:06 p.m. Sept. 26, 2011 Whoa ..... I
didn't realize my comment would arouse such angst. Mammals are so named because
they have mammary glands and not because of the number of legs they have. And
no, infants don't bond with their fathers because they are working to provide
the bread and butter. Infants drink milk ... remember.You'd be
surprised at what the animals in the barn know about the birds and bees. Your
typical stallion is probably going to be more interested in the mare and not so
much in another stallion. Re: Jeanie b. | 12:36 p.m. Sept. 26, 2011
Being a man you can safely assume that I've been around my wife who
has breast fed. That's why I conditioned my comment with the phrase "Where
breast feeding works". Obviously where breast feeding doesn't work formula
is the answer.