Some comments on the articles related to this argued that nothing is really
wrong with porn. It seems obvious those commenters are in denial, as 'William'
in this article was. I hope he can heal, as well as his wife.And in
the comments of those defending porn, there is a heavy darkness that accompanies
their words. It's tragic they are beyond recognizing that destructive power.
I commend the Deseret News for running this series to educate us on the
destructive effects that pornography can have on us all — especially our
children. With the information provided and the statistics sited, it's very
scary, to say the least. While more and more people are learning the truth,
there’s still so much of the population that is totally “in the
dark”. I am convinced that education is the best deterrent and
weapon that we can use to combat the evils of pornography. So I have a
suggestion for the Deseret News. Can you consolidate the information from this
series, and “periodically” publish it here; or perhaps, have a
standing link that people can go to? With your expertise it wouldn’t
take up much space, and it would most definitely benefit all who read it.Thanks again!
Money in politics is a far more addictive drug than porn is - and far more
destructive to American society. Where's the advocacy group for that?
Why stop at pronography? Why not make any sexual acts, without the intent of
children, against the law? This is the eventual path this type of
logic leads to. Not trying to undermine the problems of the family, but it's
just that... the problems of the family. Porn is the
tool, not the cause. Utah has a very active 'anti-smut' campaign. Well done. Now, since Americans are not free to buy adult
material except in Evanston, it could be argued that the result was... ‘Utah No. 1 in online porn subscriptions, report
says’ — By Elaine Jarvik — 03/03/09 — DSNews
Line:‘That's the conclusion of a Harvard economics professor who
tracked subscriptions to online porn sites. Utah ranks No. 1 in subscriptions,
according to Benjamin Edelman, who reported his findings in the article "Red
Light States: Who Buys Online Adult Entertainment?," published in the most
recent edition of the Journal of Economic Perspectives.’
I love how Deseret News once again only presents the negative side of
pornography that can occur and doesn't bother to address the positive side or
the studies done over the years that refute the negative studies.Daniel Linz, a psychologist at the University of California at Santa Barbara
who studies communication, law and society with an emphasis on sexuality, says
"We tend to call things addictions that have unfavorable connotations or
behaviors that some in society regard as being unacceptable. We do not talk
about Sunday afternoon football addiction, money addiction, or a workaholic as
people who need treatment like a cocaine addict. We tolerate a certain level of
obsessiveness. But this is not the case with more deviant activities. We do not
approve of constant viewing of sex. So we pathologize it."Destructive sexual expression due to pornography certainly does exist and
people do suffer as a result, but that doesn't mean EVERYBODY becomes obsessive
about it. Sexual compulsives may have some other underlying problem, like
obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression or bipolar disorder. Porn could be a
symptom of a deeper problem in the relationship rather than porn being the
actual problem or cause.
this article couldn't be more insightful. THANK YOU!
it is interesting that most of the people taht are in the article are
ultraconservative. if you had a more moderate info source you would find that
anythig is addictive to certain personality types. most drug addiction can be
linked to certain family traits. or more gentic. many people view porn with
their spouse and enjoy it and complement their own fun together. in america we
have a high level of sex crimes. a lot of that come from supresion of natural
feelings. countries that are more open tend to have far fewer sex crimes.
Those that advocate pornography as a way to have better sexual relations, feel
better about themselves and have "closer intimacy" are in denial. It is an
obsession. An obsession is an addiction - to have it, see it, taste it time and
again. People involved in such behavior are not able to put it away for long
periods of time, and are very grumpy when interrupted in their obsession haze.
They are the ones that end up cheating on their spouses, and breaking the
familial ties. We, as a society, have yet to understand the moral
implications of such behavior on all levels.
Back when columnist Ann Landers once did a study on women's interest in sex. She
was shocked to find 40% of women in general had little or NO INTEREST IN SEX OR
ANY TYPE OF INTIMACY WHATSOEVER! Yet they all want to marry, have families, etc.
So we have the whole gamut in society, ie., men/women super intimacy motivated
down to the uninterested! Porn is geared to meet the needs of those with
insatiable appetites. If there was no demand/money involved it would not
flourish. I don't support the 'overboard' attempt by the porn industry to
satiate society with sex but, at the same time the movement to squelch the
powerful sexual drives of the 60% is doomed to failure! People in general need
an outlet for sexual expression/energy and, my guess allot of monogamous
marriages sadly fall way short of meeting this basic need.
Your articles, while good for bringing attention to the issue, do nothing more
than place all of the blame on the male, and give the woman the mantle of the
victim. Just look at your outinthelight site. It is an emotional plea to women
to stand up against pornography, which on the surface is commendable, but it
only serves as a vehicle to further shame males who are burdened with the
problem. Shame is what drives the problem in the first place. Why not offer a
parallel site targeted at males who really want to stop this? When I see sites
like this, it transmits that idea that I'm a piece of junk, women will be
totally shocked if I confess this, and that might Church will immediately hold a
"Court of Love." If I had a site showing support from fellow men who care, and
offered hope through the GRACE of Christ, maybe I might want to change. These
series only make me have more shame and more hurt.
We can always count on you Pagan, to attempt to divert attention away from the
core issue being discussed. You say it's "the problems of the family" and that
"Porn is the tool, not the cause". If you had read this entire series, there's
absolutely no way you would have drawn this conclusion. And while it's sad
indeed, whether Utah has the highest rate of porn viewing or not, has absolutely
nothing to do with the overall issue of pornography’s destructive
influence. From what I’ve observed, it appears that your sole objective
in making the comments you do, is not to contribute to an intelligent
discussion; but, to disparage the Church and its members.Jiggle, on
one hand, you discount the fact that pornography can become an addiction; and,
on the other hand, you say that it’s a “destructive sexual
expression” and that “people do suffer as a result”. Then you
speculate on possible causes. So, if 95% of those exposed to pornography, can be
seriously damaged, that’s an acceptable sacrifice, because the other 5%
don’t have a problem? Sorry but, your logic and rationalization don't
LOL, there are no positives to porn. What are you going to tell me next, that
there are no health risks to smoking?
We live in a world of immediate data retrieval .. of any kind.. and in the
privacy of your home pc. We also live in a world where 95% of movie directors
,writers , producers have no moral compass at all. Anything goes for them - the
raunchier the better. Magazines in your local Super Wallmart have half nude
women on the covers for all to view. Music is polluted more than ever with the
worst debuauchery imaginable. So admist this sea of dirt what can a boy or a man
do? There is no filter that will block all wanted content but there is a moral
armor that can only be achieved spiritually - by turning to the Savior. This
armor is the ultimate filter that no one can hack.
I am totally amazed at the naivety of the so-called professionals who study the
porn 'problem.'Simply put, the human male urge (placed there by
Mother Nature) from puberty til almost death is to engage in sex. If it were
not so, the human race would have disappeared eons ago.When not
married (youth), sexual release could involve porn and/or self gratification.
After marriage the release is with the spouse. But, where the spouse is
unwilling, the male often turns to porn... In many cases divorce results. And, as reported in an above post, an alarming percentage of females
have no interest in sex, whatever.Why is there so much guilt
associated with what is a natural urge? Perhaps because religion has decided
that porn (and, yes, much of sexual conduct) is sinful. The vast majority of
males viewing porn have taken this teaching to heart yet are ridden with endless
guilt because of inability to abandon/control the urge.There is an
answer that some have found... celibacy. Which is very, very difficult as many
in a dominant church (as reported by the DNews) has found.DNews
monitor: My most sincere effort. Please ponder carefully before discarding
I think that much of the immodesty, sexual inuendo and off color jokes that are
not considered porn on TV and in magazines of today, and immodest clothing have
the same affect.
I don't know what this series is intended to be, but it clearly hasn't been
journalism; all I've seen are biased assumptions, shaky statistics, and outright
fearmongering. Are you guys in the business of reporting news or spreading
propaganda?Keith43: 95% of the people who view porn can be damaged?
Oh, you aren't jumping to conclusions at all. Yes, there is the potential for
abuse in porn, but there's the potential for that in anything. Based on your
logic, Prohibition should have been a huge success; all we had to do was ban the
sale of alcohol and tell people it was bad, right?Look, sex is a
part of life. We can choose to talk about it in a mature and open manner or we
can rely on guilt, paranoia, and shame. Too bad so many here seem to prefer the
I would agree that porn can be harmful, however I would agree with wpwitt that a
lot of porn use comes from individuals that are in relationships and are not
having the basic needs of a human met. Woman hold the power that they have over
men like a meat cleaver. If the relationship is not going so great they
withhold all intimacy and physical contact and then wonder why nothing ever
improves. It takes two to tango and both individuals need to be on the same page
at the same time. loosen up
the problem isn't porn. the problem is a lack of moderation and self-control.
same with drugs or anything esle. moderation is the key.you all
just like to blame the product instead of the person. and that's so typical of
'So, if 95% of those exposed to pornography, can be seriously damaged,
that’s an acceptable sacrifice, because the other 5% don’t have a
problem? Sorry but, your logic and rationalization don't hold water.' - Keith43
| 1:18 p.m. Keith, we can always count on you to
present... nothing. No studies cited, no sources
presented. I guess we can just make up things now, correct? I
presented date, author, source, title, and quote. And for the
record, I didn't bring up any church. I said 'Utah'. 'Utah has
a very active 'anti-smut' campaign.' - Pagan | 10:49 a.m. Sept. 21, 2010 You brought up church. '...to disparage the Church
and its members.' - Keith43 | 1:18 p.m. Sept. 21, 2010 Do not project falings to others... the failings you have
@Don43Sorry...but your logic and rationalization don't hold water!
Pulling percentages out of the air is laughable! Do you have reliable sources
for your percentages claim?Experts don't even agree that it's an
addiction so for ME to claim it is an addiction instead of just possibly being a
compulsive disorder or some other behavior or relationship problem would be
giving it a label that may not be true. Saying that pornography is the ONLY
cause or the main cause for the stress in a relationship ignores other possible
underlying causes in the relationship that may be actually causing the stress.
The guys aren't all to blame for turning to porn if their wife isn't interested
in sex, are they? Is porn the REAL problem or is it other factors in the
relationship the real problem?Communication is the key to keeping
the habit within normal bounds. Occasional use of pornography is now deemed as
normal by most experts. Unfortunately, some individuals find it easier to
retreat into their porno-world rather than deal with normal relationships, which
are always going to be complex with ups and downs.
charlie91342 | 2:22 p.m. Sept. 21, 2010:"the problem isn't porn. the
problem is a lack of moderation and self-control. same with drugs or anything
esle. moderation is the key."Actually both porn and the lack of
self-control are the problem. Lack of moderation is NOT the problem. Moderate
use of pornography is what got a lot of people hooked in the first place.Too many duped people fancy themselves as moderate, open-minded, and in
control right before they discover that they cannot easily pull themselves away
from it. Pretty soon, the moderate dose of pornography ends up not getting them
the fix it once did. At this point, their new standard of moderation becomes
what was once considered harder-core pornography. If you really are
one of those "elites" who "can handle it maturely", do you really want to
encourage others to play Russian Roulette with their potential susceptibility to
pornography addiction, just so you can congratulate yourself at how superior you
The problem is with the completely unhealthy view of sex that has such a tight
grip on the Utah culture.You watch an action movie where the
protagonist kills all the bad guys with a single shot. But you get educated
about firearms and you see how unrealistic it is. In the chase scene they
barrel down the highway leaving path of destruction but come out unscathed.
Then you drive down I-15 in real life and things couldn't be more different.Then there's the porno. You see something that is just as unrealistic
as the above scenarios, but where's the healthy real life counter argument?There isn't one. And the Utah LDS culture (no, I did not say church)
does everything in it's power to make sure that the healthy reality is left
unknown. Outright lies about what is and isn't sinful between spouses abound.
Sex and sex acts are dirty sinful things that can't even be thought about
without. One party in a marriage may want something perfectly fine and healthy
from their relationship but find that their partner has been programmed into
thinking it's dirty and sinful.
Trickygringuito: Sadly I think you may have hit the nail on the head when it
comes to many marital problems. Not just in the LDS culture, but in society in
general. Too many parents are not having frank, serious discussions
with their kids about what it and isn't realistic to expect when they marry.
Not just about sex, but about money, responsbility, division of labor, etc.
Somehow parents are avoiding the "tough" talks and then wondering why their kids
don't seem to get it.I admit it is not easy to talk to my 2 girls
about sex. But I want them to have a more open relationship with me then I did
with my mother. I want them to be able to come to me when they have questions
or problems. I want to be able to help them understand that
marriage is not always easy, so ignore at least 50% of what you read in books,
and be prepared to make a lot of opinion changes, and course adjustments. Feel comfortable enough to talk to your new spouse. Chances are he
wants to talk to you about things too.
These are good and helpful articles, and I believe we should take heed, for the
most part. However, they are also clearly one-sided, and not always accurate.
Note, for example, the survey results that men prefer sex, not porn as the
researchers believe.Also note the following contradiction:"how can a real women possibly compete with a cybervision of perfection,
downloadable and extinguishable at will, who is utterly submissive and tailored
to the customer's least specification?:Personally, some exposure to
porn early in life steered me in a completely opposite direction. I prefer (as
do many men) dominant Women (not the least bit submissive!), who may rarely even
allow me any sexual privileges. I also think that some 90-97% of Women are
gorgeous, and I am interested in an emotional, social and intellectual
relationship.Hmmm, not quite the stereotype these articles portray
and clearly state is the only result of any exposure to porn. Maybe these
articles are missing something? Something important? Lots important?
I agree with lostsoul | 12:29 p.m.Shaming men with this problem will
only lead to excessive guilt. What does that lead to? More secrecy and more
avoidance of the issue, and deeper and deeper addiction.There has
GOT to be a way for church members to portray the message that porn is wrong,
while offering love and hope for the sinner. This message, for the most part, is
NOT being portrayed. And Utah Mormon men struggle enormously with this problem
as they are burdened with guilt and don't seek help.If the man was
100% confident that if the message would be "I know you are doing porn, but I
love you so much and want to help you and not condemn you" then the success rate
would be FAR greater than now.The Savior's words about the woman
taken in adultery still apply to men with porn problems: "He that is
without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."We all
want recovery for those caught up in it. The Savior shows the way with His
love.Please DN - start focusing on the help and less on the
What a fascinating debate! While personally I have a hard time with the
exploitation of women that accompanies the porn industry, I can also (by
experience in my current, very happy relationship with a wonderful man) see how
small amounts of porn can liven up intimacy in marriage when shared together in
a spirit of wanting to increase the mutual pleasure.The key word is
mutually. Perhaps the reason that so many women lose interest in intimacy is
because their partner has no idea how to make it extremely enjoyable for the
woman. It becomes then, a chore, something to keep the MAN happy. This is not
right, and too often a consequence of men viewing pornography- they see women as
only being the object of MEN's pleasure. Rather, an open and honest
dialogue about wanting to find ways to make the shared experience better for
BOTH partners can accompany a very small amount of porn, usually viewed
together. If BOTH partners are satisfied, they won't find it necessary to look
outside the relationship, but rather for ways to enhance what exists between the
two of them.
How come nobody talks about lack of intimacy in a relationship as a reason why
men turn to pornography in the first place?
Pagan,Don't pretend that the great majority of your posts are
directed at "a church."I'm not quite sure what the point of bringing
the fact that Utah has a high porn subscription into the conversation was. No
one argued that point, yet you bring things up so defensively to prove a point,
yet no one has denied that point to begin with.....I'm not Mormon
either, and I don't agree with everything they do, but it's just comical to
watch as you try and blame nearly all of life's problems either on the Mormons
or George Bush. And for the record, you have brought up "the church"
1,265,835 in posts like these, so to suggest otherwise is simply nonsense.For those capable of keeping the comments on hand to the article, it is
interesting to see the opposing view on this divisive topic.
to Jiggle | 10:59 a.m. Sept. 21, 2010Clearfield, UT President
Hinkley and Monson have been very clear on this topic. There is nothing good
about porn. Our bodies are private and temples of God. They are not to be
displayed to the world. People who view porn lose the Spirit and move further
away from God and the Saviour. Porn is highly offensive to God.
to: Marduk | 7:09 p.m. Sept. 21, 2010Logan, UT read my earlier
post. Just because a couple view porn together doesn't make it right. Porn is
evil and offensive to God. Mutual consent doesn't make it right. How can any
woman tolerate her man looking at the naked body of another woman? Those images
will be burned into his head forever. Is that what you want him to think about
when he is with you?
Dixie Kid. The reason nobody talks about lack of intimacy in a relationship as
the reason men turn to pornography in the first place is the editors of this
website don't post those comments! I talked about it in my comment on the other
porn article and, my comment was not posted!
To Kevin from Jiggle/JoggleRespectfully I say....President Hinkley
and Monson statements are not statements I believe to be true. I'm not LDS and
I'm not a slave to any religion. Just because a religious leader states what
they do doesn't mean the whole world believes it or has to follow it. If you
want to believe what you stated above....that's fine...but I have a right to not
believe the same OR have it determine how I live MY life. How can you offend a
supernatural entity that has no universally proven existence? You are taking
YOUR beliefs as stated by your leaders and trying to apply it to everyone.
That's impossible!Nothing inspires an addiction to porn in human
beings more reliably than sexual repression. Religions champion such abuse of
spirit and body by telling members normal sexual acts are sinful, immoral, and
punishable by God. This view can sometimes leads to neuroses or other ill
effects such as abuse of pornography. Religion isn't an innocent entity when it
comes to being a contributing cause of this obsessiveness with porn.Have to ever read the porn in the Bible?
Joggle said: Have to ever read the porn in the Bible?I'm sure
they have, they were just told it meant something else, like wine is grape
Pagan:I suggest you take the time to actually read Edelmans study on
on line porn subscriptions instead of just posting the same cliche headlines and
quotes. It is evident to all who have followed your posts over the past 3 yrs
that you overtly or covertly attempt smear the LDS and Republicans on a regular
basis. Here is what Edelman told me as a response to my putting him on the spot
regarding his "study" "It’s not quite that there
were more Utah subscribers than any other state, but there were more Utah than
any other state after controlling for other factors, as detailed in my article,
such as (in various versions of my analysis) population, Internet usage,
high-speed Internet access, and demographics" Ben Edelman 5/10/11 Dont let the truth get in the way of your agendas
@Lost soulWell said. I think many could use a read over on your
comments.I see problems in the few DesNews porn articles I have read
the last few years. First, porn analysis is most always viewed in a subjective
pattern that follows inductive thought. Look, the bottom line is that porn is a
beast of a problem for humanity. I get that. However, it shouldn't be
injected into all the problems of people everywhere, that resemble some subject
in the given article. Second, although women are often the victims,
it doesn't mean that they don't play a role in all of this. Women
might view porn much less than men, but they do in large numbers feed the visual
man by participating in porn, and in more recognizable ways; walk around our
communities three quarters naked. Seriously, I am not making excuses
for the darker side of the male mind. I am calling out the women (and sadly
girls) who parade their bodies as a way to cater to male perversion and gain
power over the man.Males and females are different, but can equally
play positive or negative role in any social issue.
I'm not really sure the Deseret News is really even a newspaper anymore.
They seem to be more of an anti-porn editorial newsletter with a few articles
sprinkled in here and there about Mitt Romney and Utah events. Anyway, like all
of their other editorials about this topic, they never mention the coountless
couples who love to watch porn together and have no issues with each other
watching porn on their own time. I have many male and female friends who view
porn when they are bored, and none of them expect their spouses or partners to
look or act like the entertainers they see in porn. This editorial insults
everyone's intelligence by making it seem like people look at forms of
entertainment and then want their significant other to be like the entertainers.
Do women watch basketball, and then break up with their husbands because their
husbands can't do a slam dunk like Kobe Bryant?
Way to keep up the paranoia.
Pagan, funny, I haven't seen your posts in awhile. I was wondering where
you had gone. Maybe we were just reading different articles. Anyway, it's
good to see that you are still riling up the conservatives. Too funny.It's also funny that Utah has the highest rate of online porn usage, even
when controlling for factors. That's how legitimate studies are done
22oz.Anyway, I'm glad I don't have to worry about the
quilt and shame that religions try to foist on people. I don't know how you
guys do it. And now if you'll excuse me, I've got a
website to go visit. . .
While the loss of intimacy, or a negative female libido may be the initial
"cause" why a man turns to pornography, I don't think that
justifies the end result. Look the article is actually quite good.
It's stating that if you feel estranged and dissatisfied with your
marriage, don't go getting involved with a fantasy that will only set you
up for further dissatisfaction. We men do this to ourselves (and
women do it to themselves too... just consider the top selling Amazon book right
now is Shades of Gray, a book about a completely unrealistic dominant male
character who could never possibly exist in real life), we get bored or feel
"unfulfilled" and rather than looking for a decent wholesome way to fill
ourselves we go for a cheap thrill.That cheap thrill comes with a
steep price. You only feel more lousy! Just like a drug that's slowly
destroying your body, pornography slowly kills the soul of your relationship
with your wife. Marriages can be saved, but they require loving
work, not carnal distractions. If you want to enliven your marriage, watch a
romantic comedy, perhaps, but not Porn. Porn Kills True Love.
Porn is for people with zero self control.
Porn breaks up mariages? The number 1 (or 2) killer of marriages depending on
the survey is money issues, or sexual frustration. Typically a wife loses
interest and the husband either has to put up with it, or make use of porn to
help bridge the gap, or the husband will find someone outside the marriage to
fill the gap.Assuming this is true, it must also be true that porn
helps save some marriages, by providing a coping mechanism for frustrated
husbands.Perhaps this line of logic is incorrect, but it merits
You folks - always looking for a boogie man to blame for being human. Richard
Nixon tried to destroy the Presidents Commission report on Obscenity when it
showed no harm from the stuff.If it isn't pornography(which is legal)
then it will be fluride in the water or "Idle Time" to try and scare and
My 2 cents: Look at the best selling books. They are mostly "women's
porn". I feel sorry for today's young man. If you aren't a rich
pervert (shades of grey) or a Vampire you fall below the ideal man as envisioned
by young (and old) women. How does a guy have a chance these days?
Some pornography can also be like alcohol when used wisely and in moderation.
Not everybody who drinks becomes an alcoholic or kills themselves or somebody
else while driving.On the other hand the reasonable and moderate use
of even legitimate pornography drives the creation of real and tragic victims:
children and adults forced or sold or kidnapped into coercive pornography.
In my sphere of knowing individuals and families, I do not know of one family
whose porn addicted husband, father, has not caused major loss of respect and
happiness within his own family. Are we to take heed with such articles as
this, or do we choose to beleive that pornography will not impact and degrade
our lives? Surely one must desire better of the sacred union between husband and
All this talk about objectifying women, what about men? Some woman who watch
porn think all men are supposed to be exceptionally endowed and most porn sites
make their money advertising enhancement and size increase pills and devices.
It goes both ways. Modern porn is often free, relying on advertising for
revenue. The advertising almost exclusively plays on men's insecurities
while watching above average porn stars do their thing.
There are so many unfair generalizations about men who turn to pornography.
Many turn to it to meet a need that they cannot meet on their own and to fill a
void. These voids and lack of needs being met is created by not being able to
form a relationship or have access to a relationship or any intimacy, so they
are missing that bond that is necessary to good psychological health. Another
cause is men being in relationships with women who withhold their love,
affection and intimacy from them thus making them feel isolated, so they turn to
pornography as a substitute for all that, though a poor substitute. Women
should look in the mirror and examine why they are driving their men to porn.
Learning to control your desires is all part of the plan.Short term
vs. long term goals. Plenty of people throw it all away for the briefest
seconds of satisfaction. Take control of your life!
The comments seem pretty one sided against men.
The large amount of responses questioning the validity, or value of this article
bring a smile to my face and I have to credit the Des News staff for allowing
them to stand and be seen by all. The large # of Likes underneath those posts,
lead me to believe that my home state is getting a little tired of being
preached to about sexual habits and appetites. Sex isn't going away any
time soon, folks. Embrace it, give people their privacy and yes, even celebrate
one of the greatest gifts we have been given, (if you so choose--or personally
shun it, if that's what works for you). As long as laws aren't being
broken--your home is your castle. I would think that I'm preaching to the
choir now, though. Utah is #1 in porn consumption per capita.
Can I just say the article title is innuendo rich. Think about it...per Abe Sarvis 9:43 a.m. Sept. 21, 2010Isn't said advocacy
group called the Tea Party? Oh wait...per Jiggle 10:59 a.m. Sept.
21, 2010"I love how Deseret News once again only presents the
negative side of pornography…" The Fox news approach is
alive & well in UT? There's a shock!Seriously, what about
the fact that the region of the brain that controls addiction can't
differentiate between what the "controlling item" is? Drugs,
religion, porn, Dr Pepper, S Asian cuisine, etc... How many times have you seen
a "troubled soul" find Jesus? That being said, I'll know when C.
Sheen becomes born again the apocalypse is upon us.
Smut is smut no matter how you wrap it and call it. It is a plague and all of us
should stay away form it life a communicable disease. People's faces show
where they have been just like a smokers breath tells one a cigarette was smoked
by the individual. America the beautiful is the land of the free and the home of
the brave. Lets encourage all of us to be more beautifully free by NOT LOOKING
at this smut and more brave to stand up for something this harmful to our
citizenry. LOVE is NOT LUST.
Porn is addictive to those who are susceptible to addiction. Of course, those
who are susceptible are going to be susceptible to addiction to all kinds of
things... reality TV, gardening, 3-cheese pizza's or who knows what.
People need to know their own limitations and protect themselves accordingly.
There are people commenting here that seem to think that pornography destroys
marriages. My wife of 18 yrs and I would like to disagree with that opinion.
We have found that pornography, used in moderation, enhances our sex life. It
provides a nice variety and spark.
Women engage in pornography as well with the same curiosity as men yet they are
not often comming forward.
Pornography gives an unreal image of what sexual activity is about.The problem is that many people learn about sex from pornography.Why is Utah
#1 in accessing on line Porn perhaps it is because of a lack of sex education in
the schools.What the writer fails to mention is the effect on women
of consuming soft porn. What I consider soft porn are many Romance Novels also
the Hallmark channel.The male heros of some of these so called
novels create an unreal immage of what females can expect from males.Many males also can not compete with the unreal immage of spouses in some of
their "LDS Romance Novels"The spouses in these novels are
generally professional people Doctors or Lawyers who have all the time to devote
themselves to their spouses and generally are completely satisfied with holding
their spouses and talking to them rather than any other physical activity.The novels satisfy the fantasy of the 38 year old divorce with three
children who meets the never been married physician who loves her and her three
children.Real life they marry some one younger with no children.
Just a different view point.