The following 18-point iPhone contract from a mother to her son was created by Janell Burley Hofmann. This post originally appeared on Hofmann's blog, www.janellburleyhofmann.com and has been shared on dozens of additional sites, including The Huffington Post. It has been reposted here with the author's permission.


Dear Gregory,


Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. You are a good and responsible 13-year-old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present come rules and regulations.


Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well-rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it.


Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership. I love you madly and look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come. It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life.


You are growing up in a fast and ever-changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new iPhone. Merry Christmas!


xoxoxo

Mom

We are in this together

You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You and I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.

Keep your eyes up

Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.

Play intellectually stimulating games

16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.

Download new or classic music

Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.

Learn to live without it

Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO — fear of missing out.

Don't take a photo of everything

Don’t take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.

Do not send inappropriate photos

Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else’s private parts. Don’t laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence.

It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear — including a bad reputation.

Be polite in public

Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.

No porn

No porn. Search the Web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person — preferably me or your father.

Censor yourself

Do not text, email or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.

Only say what you would in person

Do not text, email or say anything through this device you would not say in person.

Do not use to lie or deceive

Do not use this technology to lie, fool or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay out of the crossfire.

You are responsible for damage costs

If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs.

Mow a lawn, baby-sit, stash some birthday money. It will happen; you should be prepared.

It does not go to school

It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It’s a life skill. *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.

Time limits

Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30 p.m. every school night and every weekend night at 9 p.m. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30 a.m.

If you would not make a call to someone’s land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.

Answer it, use your manners

If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say, "Hello." Use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads “Mom” or “Dad.” Not ever.

The password

I will always know the password.

It is my phone

It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren’t I the greatest?